first meeting with oncologist

One step at a time Amanda.  Don't worry about the rant, we all do that from time to time and the people here have the biggest shoulders!

I wish you luck tomorrow with your oncologist and hopefully when you get your treatment plan you will start to feel better....onwards and upwards.

Love & Strength

Debs xx

hey amanda,

i know exactly how you are feeling, the worst bit is before your first treatment because you dont know how you are gonna feel, i had my first chemo two weeks ago now, i was a bit poorly to start with but i changed my meds and its helped, its just a case of getting used to your side effects and having what you need to deal with them. it all seems overwhelming to start with but if you are on a cycle like me you will have good weeks and the hospital are very helpful and im sure they will help you work it around your sisters wedding.

ive found this site very useful the people on here are so friendly and supportive so use us all ask questions and rant as much as you want.

best wishes

sam

xxx

Amandaj- I'm going to politely call you 'stupid'. You don't have to be strong & feel you shouldn't cry around your family. I thought my sister was coping well when she was diagnosed the first time, but now I know better and feel so bloody stupid & ignorant for not realising exactly how much she was struggling inside. You are only human and people often just grasp at the visible face/grasp you put on so let them know your feelings so they can support & help you. Ask the Onc. why you need this treatment and it will be explained to you.

Plan away as this is something positive to focus yourself on & to look forward to- don't put yourself down too quick.

Keep in touch as like Debs says there are a lot of shoulders on this site.

Jewels XX

Hello I have had my 3rd cycle of chemo and have found there seems to be a pattern to the side affecs. I like you was all clear, it is just an insurance policy because h eye or micro-scope cannot not tell if you are truly free. Ask lots of questions tomorrow. Also do you remember a Song called Cry if You Want To.  PS the doc called me young an fit and I will be 56 tomorrow.Good Luck Julie XX

Hi Amanda,

Good luck for today hun, like you I kept thinking it was all a horrible mistake and someone would tell me they had got it all wrong and I didn't have breast cancer, how could I when I felt and looked so well. I had my mastectomy last Wednesday and I think it only really hit home when I was sat in the bath on Saturday and looked down to see the dressing....there it was, a visible sign that yes it was true, just about getting my head round it and will find out either this Thursday or next when my chemo will start and like you I am terrified of what that will entail, but I know I can come on here and cry, rant scream and do whatever I need to and not be judged, in fact its the opposite because all of these wonderful people here understand my fears so you pop in here whenever you need to we are all right behind you. I did try to PM you but couldn't find the button. Let me know how you get on today, thinking of you.

take care love Terri xxx