first meeting with oncologist

Hi Amanda

Hope you got on ok today and your consultant has explained the reason for your treatment plan.

Had mastectomy and full aux clearance of lymph nodes. chemo and radiotherapy. Finished treatment 12 months ago.

We have lots of experience of dealing with the treatments on this site and will support you all the way.

Take care

Sue xxxxxx

Hi Guys thanks for all the supportive messages. Got it all explained yesterday feel a bit better today. Oncologist said that if i didn't have the treatment there is a good chance that it would come back because they are not sure how many of the cancer cells are floating around in my blood. Having the treatment i have a 25% chance of it not coming back so i have consented to have it. It all feels real now and i am a cancer statistic. My first one is on the 27th November so it is all going fast. I have to have 4 FEC and 4 Docetaxel. Not read through the literature they gave me yet there is so much of it. But my sister who is getting married is also a sister at the hospital, ironically she works in gynie and especially with cancer patients so as offered to go through it all with me so that i understand what the big words mean lol. She and my hubby were both with me yesterday which helped. How do you feel the day after the first treatment, i know every one is different but we had planned to go on a girly shop for wedding clothes but don't know how i may feel. Also i am a big football fan and we have a local derby on the sunday and have said i am going but again don't know how i may be feeling.

Thanks again for all the replies it is good to know that i have you guys to rant at lol and to cry if i want to. Telgirl keep strong when it is explained it does make you feel better and understand more the reasons why it is only to give you the best possible chance of it not coming back. I will try to PM you and see if it will let me.

Happy birthday Julie heres to many more, I do remember the song lol xx

With out this site to pour all our feelings out on where would we all be xx

To use your words Debs ....... Onwards and Upwards love to you all xxx

Hi Telgirl,

I've tried to PM you but it won't let me either x

Amanda, its good to have things planned something to look forward to as long you bare in mind they might have to be rearranged, skipped or left early depending on how you feel.  But sometimes just having something nice to look forward to, helps.

Glad you are feeling better about things.

Love & Strength

Debs xx

hi all - we too have found it difficult to plan stuff because mum sometimes is not well enough to go places.  however, we have decided now to DO stuff on the days when she is good [if only to get a coffee or ride in the car]. On her bad days she can just stay home. I know its not much help for you but thats just how we work it out. we have a show that my 16 yr old sister is in on the 20th dec and my mum has said that she is going to that even if she has to go in a wheelchair and take a sick bowl!!! so i guess the moral is to look ahead, do stuff when you have good days and if you do go out and dont feel too good just be prepared.