New and scared

Hi rocco and welcome to our group, you are not blabbing at all and we are all here for you the ladies in this group are all lovely and very helpful.  I’m not sure if this will help but I had surgery in November and was signed off until February, I was still getting my wage but I was able to get universal credit on top of that and now because I am on chemotherapy and I have been signed off until the end of May I have been put into a group for people with limited capability for work or work related activities and I will now get extra money on top of the universal credit.  If you have a specialist nurse ask them if they can help.  My nurse put me in touch with their benefits person who told me about it. Hope this helps a little. X

Hi Rocco, I also lived alone when I had a hysterectomy. Before surgery I was given a list of things to do and things NOT to do during recovery. So there are a few things to organise before you go in, although hopefully your partner can step up. I was advised not to lift heavy things or drive for several weeks, so I organised help for shopping, housework and taking the rubbish out. There were lots of little things I did beforehand like putting furniture in convenient places so I had a table and chair for my laptop and somewhere to sit in the kitchen. I took my heavy overcoat out of the wardrobe and put it in the hall so I wouldn't have to contort myself to reach it.  So have a think about those sort of things. Perhaps your partner will feel involved and useful if you get him to do the hoovering, carry the shopping and empty the bin etc (my hero!). And you will need a lift here and there while you can't drive.  Wishing you lots of luck, I am doing fine a few years down the line.

Hi Rocco, bless you - really glad you’ve posted. Are you aware that Macmillan offer financial help? It’s definitely worth getting in touch with them and telling them about your situation. How are you getting to the hospital on Monday?

Hey Marmite.....I didn't know but now I do ....spoke to them last night and they have given me some great advise. I'm fortunate enough to not of had to do any of this claiming malarkey.....trying to verify my identity is causing lots of words to escape my mouth ‍♀️

Partner will be taking me in and family will be with me for the first 3 days ...

Thank you for the reassurance and the tips....it's all things I wouldn't have thought off x

Thank you for your support...Currently having an amazing time with universal credit ‍♀️....today's battle.

Hi Rocco  and a warm welcome to our little corner of the Online Community. Here you'll find a lovely group of supportive ladies who have all been exactly where you find yourself now. Any possibility of cancer diagnosis brings all sorts of stress and fears and if anyone can hold your hand and reassure you we will as you’re not alone in this. We're all at the start, in the middle or the end of what can only be described as an emotional roller-coaster ride. 

It's good to read that your partner is standing by you despite you thinking you're pushing him away. You've got a lot to deal with at the moment. He sounds like  good'un so hang on to him.

It’s always helpful to others if you write a little something (or a lot) about yourself and how you came to find yourself here. You can enter it into your profile (click on your username and select “Profile”) It’s helpful to other members with a similar diagnosis who can then hopefully answer your questions. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. You can amend or update it at any time. If you’re not sure what to write, just click on my username.

If you want to ask any of us any questions please come back and do so. There's always someone around and we can offer a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold or listen to a rant, we’re here for you.

It might also be a good idea to download this booklet Understanding Womb (Endometrial) Cancer. I found it invaluable on my journey. 

Click on the link I’ve created to find out more information covering diagnosis and treatments for Womb cancer.

You might also find this link to what to take in my overnight bag useful for when you have surgery.

I see you've already been in contact with the Macmillan support line and got help from them which is good to hear.

Sending you welcoming hugs, Barb xx 

Hi again Rocco, what’s your probable grade and stage, if you’re happy to share? I did a daily diary thread when I had my op - I can tag you if you like!