Positive stories

Just read my post over my emojis went a bit crazy lol no idea why xx

Hi Xxnataliexx,

hope you’re doing well and feeling more positive. I, like you, had surgery almost 3 months ago now....still cannot believe it.
After a difficult post op period, with prolapses, anxiety & depression...I’ve managed to turn a corner and feel so much stronger.
Started on medication for depression and counselling; my GP believes that the speed of my diagnosis then surgery, lack of support post op, all during a pandemic is to blame for my psychological problems......but I’m returning to work next week.

To be honest I can’t wait to get back to some kind of normality, where I’m not just A who had cancer, but A who’s a mother, wife, daughter & a nurse. I lost my identity for a while, but it’s back.

Hi I wasn’t prepared for the emotional side of it so it really all is a shock.glad you are doing well and feeling stronger I carnt believe it’s Bein 3 months already time flies. Good luck back at work and am glad ur feeling you again. I think for me it’s to start a new chapter of my life book now best wishes to you keep safe take care.  Xxnataliexx. 

Totally agree, I wasn’t prepared for the flood of emotions that followed the surgery, felt I was going mad at one point. My husband & daughter have been so supportive I doubt I’d have managed to cope without them both. You’ll get there yourself, everyone is different. The counselling is helping me so much more than I ever expected, talking about the loss of the “old me” and making a future as the “new me”, sounds a bit corny, but it’s true.

Sending hugs & positive thoughts, take care A x

I don’t think its easy to prepare for the emotional side of things. We all heal different some fly though it all and don’t seem to have the emotional impact, whether it’s because they are a bit embarrassed or not it’s difficult to say. My emotional impact it had on me was anger because I had been constantly fobbed off with its just a couple of small fibroids, but i was always in the belief that something’s was more wrong i kept thinking if this is just a couple of small fibroids doing this then i had to think how would someone feel with huge fibroids? So i had lost all confidence in the medical profession. It took along time for me to gain some confidence back but it’s still not there. Its not helped that I have frustrating under lying conditions that certainly complicated the recovery. Having cancer was a shock but at the same time i did suspect it but being fobbed off so often i doubted myself so its left me unsure of myself, yet at the same time you know your own body. Yes we can not always know what is wrong but we know that there is.

The best advice ever given was to take each day as it comes and to beat yourself up if you have a wobble they are natural and if you get the tight support and understanding from others it makes a big difference. But its trust issues too but learning who you are now may take time but never give up.

sending you all a big bear hug  

My surgery - full hysterectomy - was 5 years ago and I'm about to pass my 5 years and be signed off. I was almost 60 when i was diagnosed and had not been ill - The surgery was done via the Da Vinci key hole machine so after I'd got over the effects of the anasethetic i was itching to start doing things after only a couple of weeks - but was under orders not to for 6

I was initially having 4 clinics a year - 2 oncology and two gynae then after two years it went down to one of each and then partly because of COVID the gynae consultant signed me off early.  They all feel that if it was coming back it would have done so by now

Hi All

I feel uplifted after reading all the posts in this thread this morning. My biggest emotional melt-down was when I went back to my car following my last brachytherapy session. It's like the pressure of the last few months had gone off. Throughout all my tests,scans, op &  treatments my husband didn't exactly hold my hand. In fact the day I was told I had cancer he didn't even give me a reassuring hug. One day I was a bit down and his typical response was " you're clear of cancer, get over it" In fact just the other day he said I wore it like a cloak. Then he said I'm always going on about it - not true - if a friend asks how I am I'll tell them I'm fine. Then again he shouldn't eavesdrop on my conversations! 

The positive thing is I now stand up for myself much more. Somedays I wish I'd win the lottery so I can set off on my own journey so I'm not as strong as I'd like to be - to walk away from a 40+ years of marriage. But heh ho I can take what life throws at me!

Sorry for the slightly negative rant, just needed to blow off steam.

Hugs all round, Barb xx 

Hi there well done for 5 years being clear best wishes to you xx

Hi there I think we all have Bein there with the braking down and crying it’s an emotional time for us! And I hope you Win the lottery and set off on ur own journey one thing I have learnt threw all this life is to short. The cancer diagnosis is apart of us now so if we want to go on about it we will until we feel ready to put it in the back of our mind. I wish u all the best and don’t forget to keep putting the lottery on Xxx

once i started having my chemo i wasn't able to drive myself anwhere and i eventually had to borrow my Husband's spare wheelchair which wasn't needed at the care home fortunately in our area patient transport was funded for  cancer patients.  It was still an emotional wrench for me though being on my own, when all around me in the unit the others had partners, friends or family with them.  The staff helped a little when they could.  2016 and the two years prior to that  just about left me wrung out so I dont think i would have coped during all the Lockdowns if i'd still been a Carer