Positive stories

It’s 12 years. It is completely natural to think that every ache and pain it is the cancer returning. I try not to think too much about these things.  Enjoy each day, one day at a time. Each day is a blessing, and worrying about tomorrow and something that might not happen, only dampens today. 

Brilliant words expecially on a day were av Bein overthinking xx

Chelle.  Thanks for the uplifting post, though it did make me blink back a few tears.

I think at the moment we all need a bit of light at the end of the tunnel and the ability to push doubts aside, thank you.

Big hugs, Barb xx 

So happy to hear your postive stories. Sending everyone lots of love xx

Hi Natalie, 

we’ve replied to a few of the same posts, but I’ve never spoken to you directly so Hi I’m Sue and about 10 weeks post op for a full hysterectomy and omentum... just like to say you are already a success to me because your advice to others on here has helped me a lot.

I was graded ovarian cancer 1c so not the same cancer, I’m following up with 6 rounds of chemotherapy and I’ve done one and in for the next March 10. The first session I got a bit anxious with fear of the unknown etc.. it was long 7 hours, but I did meet some inspiring ladies in there, we swapped stories as you do.

I recognise what your saying but I take the view that this is a chapter of my life, hopefully a very small one which by June 2  ( Last session of chemo) will nearly be over and I can get on with the more exciting chapters that I’m positive will follow. I hate being a “cancer” person and make determined choices everyday to push myself to go walking/ take up a new skill..even to just trying a new recipe... 

Today I overcome my fear of my hair going by getting to the wig/ hair consultant and identifying a wig that might be suitable..not a big deal for some but making the decision to have a little bit more cut off, so it’s not so heavy and will last a little while longer was a good choice to make. I now have a wig which has taken 10 years of me according to my sister in law, and I asked her to be brutally honest.  So today I class that as a win.

I have the days when I feel overwhelmed, tired and the what if questions pop in to your head...I think that’s is ok and natural otherwise we would be in denial.  I talk to a few friends/relatives who give me good counsell.... I don’t talk at length to the friends who can’t cope with the diagnosis and treatment ( you know what I mean) with the sad faces and constant tears as that doesn’t help me... so I’ve become a bit more selective in topics of conversation.

Starting to ramble now, so Natalie say a few affirmations a day to yourself it may help... I know I don’t want to be defined by this..nor do you ..

Oh I also wore my favourite jeans today again for the first time, so I class that as a success as well, I was so pleased to be out of trackies...

So it may be small wins but I will take them, we have come along way from the initial days after the operations, back in gloomy January and I’m looking forward  to sunny warm days with a happy positive glow ...

So thank you Natalie, your a real winner to me!!

xx Sue

Hi there how old are you if you don’t mind me asking? Am doing ok at the minute I have a therapist now also the doctor prescribed me some anit depressant due to the emotional side of all this treatmt.just taking each day as it comes I still carnt see my future yet I hope one day I can! Thankyou for your kind words u are also an amazing strong women am sure this will not define us as people.I ao don’t want to be that cancer women everywere i seem to turn at the minute cancer seems to be, in the paper, on the radio, one the tele am sure it was there before I just never noticed it.good luckn this chapter of your life I hope it’s short for the both of us! Am jealous u can fit into your jeans again mine don’t button up at the minute maybe one day lol xxx

Hi Becalm,

I had to reply to you! My daughter had chemo for breast cancer 6 years ago. I can remember her getting a wig - blonde. I was a bit staggered because she was dark brown usually, but she said it was a good chance to change colour!! She didn't wear it much because she said she was too hot (middle of summer.) After trying scarves she ended up going bare headed, and said people could have her like that, or not at all. She always was, and still is, strong minded!!  Good luck. xxxx

Hi Natalie..

I’m just arrived at 56 years young...and much to my daughters embarrassed look sometimes, I don’t act it.

Yes I agree the news seems to be full of cancer related issues, maybe we’re just more sensitive to them now.

So glad your talking to a therapist...I might consider that depending how I feel at the end of treatment...saying things out loud is a good thing to be able to do...not always easy .

Glad to that your feeling on top of it all now, 

best wishes 

Sue

Thanks for that boost NannyAnny, 

The wig is a bit out of my comfort zone, but growing  on me ,so to speak.

Your daughter sounds a force to be reckoned with, good luck to her and thank you so much for sharing.

x

Thankyou and good luck to you let me no how u get on best wishes to you xx