In hospital and immediately after

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I have never spent any time in hospital before, apart from a few hours when I had the hysteroscopies. Three of them under anaesthetic.

So now I have to face major surgery, worry about what they could find, and stay somewhere that totally freaks me out. I will be with people I have never met before who will be doing who knows what to me. I’m a very private person and I hate people making any fuss or being too close. I suffered emotional and physical abuse in my past and this very much affects my response to any intimate examination.

I hate feeling exposed so really want to be able to be in my own clothes as quickly as possible. But I don’t know how soon they will let me be dressed, or what I should take to wear. What is going to be comfortable with whatever wounds I may have? I’m guessing that jeans are probably not  going to be comfortable? I don’t really wear dresses just trousers. I know it’s a stupid thing to get worried about but that’s just me.

  • Hi Nina,

    Any trousers with a good elasticated waist would be good and if you have some baggy / loose tops too, the belly swells a size or two after the op and takes a while to go down. I've saw one person post that they got home the same day as their operation and most people are home after one night with laparoscopic surgery, I was two nights with my open surgery and was told it could be up to five nights.

    I was able to wear my pyjamas which are loose fitting the next morning, I could have probably managed them on the day of my op but I was happy lying in bed in my gown until the next morning. I wore leggings with a dress. If you explain your concerns at your pre op appointment I'm sure that they can make some arrangements for you. A few hours after my op I could have changed clothes if I'd had to. You can get some lounge wear style pyjamas that are like jogging trousers, so might make you feel more secure but still be comfortable.

    big, full pants are most comfortable too, a size of two bigger.

    lots of love

    xxx

  • Hi Nina,

    First - clothes. You will probably have a catheter in when you wake up. (a tube from your bladder that collects urine, - saves you having to get out of bed!) I had a nightie on which made this easier, but others may have managed in PJ's? There are curtains round each bed, so you can have privacy if you need it. My top tip is to take a dressing gown. I had to walk to the theatre in a hospital gown that had lost a tie at the back. My dressing gown saved me a lot of embarrassment!!

    I found my stay in hospital quite amusing. Although there was a quick change over of people there was always someone to have a laugh with. (Best thing in that situation) One lady who had a mastectomy, and had to go home attached to a machine  made the joke that she had a new handbag!! We all clapped her! I was kept in for 2 nights, but only because my bladder was lazy.

    I'm sure the nurses will look after you. They are usually pretty good. xxxxx

  • Hi Nina60,me experience was fine,we are lucky that our local hospital surgery centre has all private rooms,also they always provide two gowns to cover front and back on the walk to the theatre.Once my catheter was taken out the next morning I was up and dressed in loose trousers and top.Home that day pain free.Mine was laparoscopi which is much easier to recover from.I found the staff very respectful of any concerns I had.Hope your op.goes well we will all be thinking of you.x

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