Hi all. I am 24 and my dad is 52. He has been poorly for 2 years, has undergone numerous tests and been fobbed off by doctors for the whole length of time. Long story short, he has 48 hours ago told me he has been diagnosed with terminal cancer, has max 18 months. They have found a lump in his intestine which they think is secondary and spots on his stomach. He is undergoing endoscopy on Saturday and will have further tests to see if he is eligible for treatment. I am devastated. I have been screaming at night and cannot cope. My mum is 57 and is losing her life partner, been together 28 years. He has told me he won’t be there for my wedding May 2024. Please tell me someone else has gone through this. I am inconsolable I don’t know what to do. I feel like my life is over and I’m worried my mum won’t be able to cope.
Thank you for your message, it feels like my world is imploding and I just don’t know how to cope with the emotions and thoughts I am getting. Sorry to hear about your husband it is so sad. How are you doing now? My dad had his endoscopy and biopsy today so within the next week or so we will know a treatment plan xx
My husband sadly passed away due to his illness. It has been hard on us all but my son and daughter are coping better than me. You have your whole life infront of you and i know that whatever happens your dad would want you to go and enjoy every moment as nobody knows what the future holds. Just check your mum is ok as i do pretend for their sake. Hopefully your dad will respond to his treatment as some people do get a good responce. Best wishes for the future and fingers crossed treatment works xx
Whatever cancer throws your way, we’re right there with you.
We’re here to provide physical, financial and emotional support.
© Macmillan Cancer Support 2024 © Macmillan Cancer Support, registered charity in England and Wales (261017), Scotland (SC039907) and the Isle of Man (604). Also operating in Northern Ireland. A company limited by guarantee, registered in England and Wales company number 2400969. Isle of Man company number 4694F. Registered office: 3rd Floor, Bronze Building, The Forge, 105 Sumner Street, London, SE1 9HZ. VAT no: 668265007