My dad at 52, unknown primary

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Hi all. I am 24 and my dad is 52. He has been poorly for 2 years, has undergone numerous tests and been fobbed off by doctors for the whole length of time. Long story short, he has 48 hours ago told me he has been diagnosed with terminal cancer, has max 18 months. They have found a lump in his intestine which they think is secondary and spots on his stomach. He is undergoing endoscopy on Saturday and will have further tests to see if he is eligible for treatment. I am devastated. I have been screaming at night and cannot cope. My mum is 57 and is losing her life partner, been together 28 years. He has told me he won’t be there for my wedding May 2024. Please tell me someone else has gone through this. I am inconsolable I don’t know what to do. I feel like my life is over and I’m worried my mum won’t be able to cope.

    1. So sorry  your dad has had this diagnosis. My husband had the same after been fobbed off by doctors for months. Hopefully they might find the primary. There are treatments that can be tried to slow down the progression. My husband had radiotherapy and chemotherspy. Hopefully the treatment will give him more time. I  have a son who was only 20 and daughter 23 so do understand how you are feeling. Your mum will be trying to keep everything together so give her support and i do hope you get more time with your dad xx
  • Thank you for your message, it feels like my world is imploding and I just don’t know how to cope with the emotions and thoughts I am getting. Sorry to hear about your husband it is so sad. How are you doing now? My dad had his endoscopy and biopsy today so within the next week or so we will know a treatment plan xx

  • My husband sadly passed  away due to his illness. It has been hard on us all but my son and daughter are coping better than me. You have your whole life infront of you and i know that whatever happens your dad would want you to go and enjoy every moment  as nobody knows what the future holds. Just check your mum is ok  as i do pretend for their sake. Hopefully your dad will respond to his treatment as some people do get a good responce. Best wishes for the future and fingers crossed treatment works xx