Hello,
My husband was diagnosed in 2020 with Advanced prostate cancer, with mets in lymph nodes, pelvis and 2 ribs. He has done really well with his oral chemo/hormone treatment until shock last night.
He had checkup scans in January this year and even though his PSA was rising all looked good and we were told not to worry about it.
Last night he was admitted to hospital with what we thought was a bad uti infection and on new scans it showed the cancer has spread to liver and lower lung nodes since January!
I always understood this was a slow growing cancer and we cannot get our heads around this complete bolt out of the blue, it feels as bad as when he was first diagnosed.
My daughter and I are so scared, does this mean there is nothing else they can do? we have to wait for oncology and probably more scans in case it's anywhere else, but the terror is choking us.
Has anyone else had it spread so quickly before and if so what have they said can be done?
Sorry, to go on but just trying to sort my head out about this shock.
thank you much.
Hello Jlpeb, I am so very sorry that David lost his battle but I hope you and Beth can draw some comfort from the love and happiness you have shared over the years and the fact that David is not suffering any more.
sending you love and hugs and deepest sympathy x
I am so sorry to hear your news which brought tears to my eyes despite not knowing you, Beth or your husband. You will hopefully have some wonderful memories to look back on.
I feel that we have a rather similar journey, mine still on going, as my husband was diagnosed in 2020 as well. Advanced with mets to bones and now psa rising and no further treatment available. Having had a stroke last year and now dementia, we take every day as it comes. Two years ago, he was admitted to hospital with a combination of a uti, covid and sepsis and unbelievably survived it. However, it left him very weak and not very mobile and any mobility is deteriorating rapidly.
You never know what is round the corner, but I do send my deepest condolences and big hugs which you and Beth will need right now. Keep in touch if you feel you need more support.
Best regards
Gina
Thankyou, it just seems unreal. When I got the call it was like it was happening to someone else and my daughter and I just sat there numb for hours.
Today will be our first day knowing our rock is not here for us anymore but we know he would hate to see us crumble. We have promised each other that we will not let each other fall, but god, this morning is so hard to bear alone, but will carry on for him and my daughter.
I wish you love on your journey with your husband and just cherish each other and every moment. x
Much love to you and Beth at this terribly sad time. Thinking of you both, much love Anita and Kenny x
Hello Jlpeb6bf2
I am so sorry to read your news. I send all my love to you and Beth at this sad time. I am sure you both have great memories of a loving husband and father to share.
If I or Macmillan can do anything for you at this time please do let me know.
We are all here for you - even if you just want someone to talk to.
Kind Regards - Brian.
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Hello Jipbe
i hope that, despite your grief, you were able to get some sleep last night because I think you might have been totally exhausted.
Your words say it all - David would not have wanted you to ‘crumble’ and he would have hoped that we all help you, in some small way and from afar, not to ‘crumble’.
Nobody wants a prostate cancer diagnosis. That said, it does give us entry into this forum where people give and receive support so readily. You are a member of this family and we are all here for you and Beth in these dark days.
xxx
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