First meeting with oncology team to get results of biopsy

Hello Pete (Crowmana99023) 

Welcome to the group although I am so sorry to find you here.

The first meeting is usually with Urology and the second with Oncology after they have discussed your results at an MDT meeting.

Depending on your results you may be offered surgery, brachytherapy, Hormone Therapy, Radiotherapy or even chemotherapy. At your meeting you DO NOT have to decided there and then, you can come away to think about how the treatment offered would impact you and your family.

As each meeting is personal to you - here's a link to a set of questions that may help you:

Questions for your Team.

I hope this helps - anything else, just ask. I hope your meeting on Monday has the best possible result.

Best wishes - Brian.

Hi Brian,

Thanks for your reply.I meant to say urology team but got distracted- too many grandkids visiting at once!

There’s a lot of information to take in but now I know I’ve got a date for the meeting it doesn’t seem so bad; as they say “it’s the waiting that’s the worst “ Fingers crossed for Monday 

Best wishes 

Pete

Take a pen and paper and a loved one to listen more than you’ll be able to on your own. Ask questions as they arise but all the questions you’ll have when you get home can be shared with us for advice and provide a list of things to ask on your next clinical meeting. As Millibob says, there’s time to find you way into this new life for you and your friends and family. Don’t panic, we are here.

Thanks Mr U, I appreciate you taking the time to reply. It’s a whole new world that’s about to open up to me and I’ve been trying to tell those close around me but not the grandkids so it’s good to let off a bit of steam on here. I’m strangely calm about the Monday biopsy results meeting hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. 

Best wishes 

Pete

Just remember when you go in that it’s your meeting and to take it slow and ask what you like.

Dont forget we are here to catch your update when you’re ready to speak. It’s not essential but we like to hear how you’re getting on.

Pete (Crowmana99023 ) hoping for the best but preparing for the worst is a great attitude.  Once you know where you stand, everything becomes clearer.  
I told my grandkids right at the start (all under six at the time) by just saying in passing that I had cancer.  They didn’t bat an eyelid as they saw me as fit and well and no big deal to them.  Now, as teenagers they just ask if my cancer is ok.  With advances in treatments I like the idea of cancer not being the disease it once was.

Good luck on Monday, you will be fine.

Hi Mr U

Thanks for your advice. I’ll have more news to tell Monday afternoon, fingers and everything else crossed 

Best wishes

Pete

Thanks David, it means a lot knowing there’s a lot of people going through the same experience at different stages with so much information and knowledge to pass on. No doubt I’ll get round to telling everyone if the prognosis is not so good. I was actually more worried about telling the family than having the tests! I’ll post on Monday with an update 

Best wishes 

Pete

As what everyone said below . But remember this is about you and if you don’t grasp or understand what they are saying . Just stop them and ask them to explain in layman’s terms . Very often my husband didn’t understand until I said to the Oncologist . He now asks and explains in an easy to understand . TBH there is too much to take in at the first meeting .  

I attend all hospital appointments with my OH . So it’s worth taking someone with you for support and more important an extra ear. 

best wishes & hugs for Monday 

Liz & OH xx

Hi Liz,

Thank you so much for your kind words. My wife is coming with me and she’s from Yorkshire so there will be no faffing about!

Best wishes 

Pete