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Hello Catlady67 and welcome from a wife in a very similar situation. My husband and I were sitting this morning having a conversation about whether he can cope, or wants to cope, with chemotherapy again especially as he is feeling so well at the moment despite a rising PSA. Ultimately it is his decision and all we, as wives and partners, can do is support our loved ones in whatever decision they make. We are all afraid of how are we going to cope, firstly with how to progressing cancer is going to affect them but then how are we going to cope when they finally lose the battle. We have made sure that we have sorted everything out like wills, finances.... so that is one less worry. There is help available if you want it to ensure that your husband gets all the aids that he needs but very often the wives and partners are forgotten about and maybe you need someone to vent to or to find out more information from. Macmillan have a helpline you can call on 0808 808 00 00 and they might come up with some suggestions. Also do you have a Maggie's near you which is there for anyone affected by cancer. A local hospice can make sure that things are in place and no they are not there just for end of life.

I lost a husband very suddenly when I was in my early 40's which was a real shock but when the chips are down we seem to find the strength to carry on from somewhere. Make a conscious effort to enjoy each day with your husband but don't forget that you are an important part of the team so look after yourself both physically and mentally.

All I can offer is a big hug and to say that you are not alone.

Hello Catlady67 

Another welcome to the group from me - although I can't add much more to the great replies you have had from my friend Mike on New to the Community and Alwayshope above.

We do have another group which you may find helpful and here's the link:

Emotional support forum 

If I can do anything for you please do let me know;

Best wishes - Brian.

Thank you 

Hi I think Awayshope's reply says it for all of us.  I take it from the name you are a cat lover so from one to another look after yourself

Yes I am a cat lover,  my cats do help with cuddles