Relationship problems after treatment

Hello Jed (Jed1 

Relationships with the ones we love are hard sometimes - we forget that it affects them too and sometimes we are so bothered with sorting ourselves out we neglect our loved ones to the point we lose them.

My best bit of advice is to telephone our Support Line on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week). They are a brilliant set of people and will have come cracking advice for you - they have contacts for relationship advisors and much more.

I am one of those blokes who shares everything - yes it's hard and sometimes when I feel low or I just want to cry but I am very open with Mrs M (and the Community) and I find the support is top drawer. It wasn't the radiotherapy that did it for me - it was the HT and not being able to "perform" but my wife understands everything as I am very open.

It's hard trying to find the right balance  - but with some help and understanding I hope you will get there,

Best wishes - Brian.

Hi Jed1,

Prostate cancer is a couples disease. Please, please, share your feelings with your wife. The old cliche, a trouble shared, is so very true. If you have a good marriage, and to be honest, even if you don't, I am sure having the support of your wife will make things so much easier for you. 

Let us know in more detail what your worries are now and this will help others to share with you, their own experiences and hopefully a way forward. When we are ill we tell our doctors what our symptoms are and now they ask "what do you want me to do" which to me seems odd. I always want to say, well you are the doctor, you tell me. But I see where they are coming from really. So let us know what advice you would like.

Best wishes

Gina