In April 2018, following a routine health check, I was told I had very low-grade cancer in my prostate but that it was Stage 1 and required no more than an “active surveillance” approach. That has remained the case until my most recent MRI scan in the summer of 2024 which showed “slight progression” – importantly still within the prostate – but which means that the cancer has now been graded Stage 2. The outcome is that, with our consultant’s approval, we have decided to opt for a prostatectomy to hopefully remove all cancer cells. This will take place on 14 October. My wife and I - along with our four children and their partners - are tackling this positively together and we are looking forward to a successful outcome. I certainly feel fortunate that my cancer was identified at such an early stage, improving the chances of a successful outcome.
My main concerns at this point are centred around incontinence and its management. I am a generally healthy 69-year-old and hope that I will be able to recover from the operation itself in the 6-8 weeks suggested but recognise that the challenges of incontinence are very likely to be longer term than this.
I got back home yesterday after my operation on Monday. I have the distinct advantage of being married to a retired nurse who worked in general surgery for many years so I'm getting excellent practical guidance. The messages on the forum are pushing the importance of exercise and eating healthily and I plan to stay off alcohol for the next 6-8 weeks. Thanks for all the advice and guidance so far.
I had problems with my stomach in the summer (not cancer related) so I started drinking ginger tea and it really helped and now all I drink is herbal tea I've found a couple I really like & no caffeine. It's also helped me with sleep. I used to have sugar in my tea so I've cut that out also. I have honey if I have a ginger and lemon tea I tried different ones and I've now found one I really like.
I hope the surgery went well for you I saw a surgeon yesterday and I'm now at the make a decision stage I'm leaning towards having the surgery rather than HT or RT. I downloaded the Squeezy app but I think I've overdone it a bit today as I had a bit of pain this afternoon. Hopefully a good night's sleep may help. Think I'm trying to run before I can walk it's an anxiety thing with me.
Sending you and your wife best wishes for your recovery.
Take care
Best wishes
Michael
Thank you so much, Michael. We appreciate that. I will certainly go non-caffeine and - if I can pluck up the courage! - herbal.
You must make your own decision re which treatment to go for. I opted for prostatectomy as it's easier to have radiotherapy afterwards should it be needed than the other way around. My surgeon said it's POSSIBLE to have a prostatectomy after radiotherapy but that it's a more difficult operation.
There is an app called squeezy men. I found this a great help fory kegal excercises. Only other advice I have is take a change of clothes everywhere you go as it can be fine then suddenly something you eat or drink can irritate your bladder and feel like you're back to square one. Take your time.
Good luck
That sounds like good advice, thank you. I've downloaded the Squeezy Men app as a number of you have recommended it for when I restart my pelvic floor exercises once my catheter is taken out (next Thursday). I did about a month's worth before the op and am pretty confident I've been doing them correctly, looking at the app, so hopefully they will help with getting back to continence relatively quickly but I'm psyched up for having to work at it and be patient.
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