Cancer

Hi Mad Man,

You are in a bad place at the moment, but please, please, don't think like this. Your life is not over. My husband's cancer is in his spine, sternum, thighs and hips but he is still doing okay. If it wasn't for his other health issues, I am sure he would be living an almost normal life. Please listen to the advice you have been given from others as this is NOT THE END!!!

Why do you think that it is? What is it that you most worry about? Is it the treatment, the side effects or the fear that it cannot be cured? Even if it is not curable, it is treatable as I have said many times. This cancer is no way near as bad as so many that have little or no chance of recovering from. If you are feeling so down, please call the McMillan support line, as I am sure they will be able to help.

Goodnight and hopefully get some sleep

Gina

Hello again Michael.

I have checked your previous posts and see that Steph and Dylan from Macmillan have already pointed you in the direction of how they can help you, as has Brian our Community Champion so I will not repeat it. We as a group can help you through the specifics of your treatment and I note that you are waiting to have chemotherapy. There are many people on here who have been through this but personally my husband was dreading it - he went through the normal 6 cycles at three weekly intervals and can honestly say it was not as bad as he had feared. It would really help us if you put a brief summary of your diagnosis and journey on your profile page so that we can target information specifically for you, but also you have to let us know why you are feeling so bad eg. is it because you are alone, are you worried about treatment, is it causing job issues, are you having problems getting appointments..... I said in my previous post that we do care and try and help anyone who comes to the prostate cancer forums but you have to let us know how we can do this. Feeling lost and alone at the start of this journey is a feeling many of us have experienced when first diagnosed and my turning point was when I realised it was not an immediate death sentence. I was afraid I was going to be left alone and that my husband was going to suffer. He was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer 3.5 years ago and is still going strong with a good quality of life. I look forward to hearing from you soon and once again welcome you to this friendly group. 

Hi Michael,

I know how its feel to be all alone and wanting to die. I remembered this feeling of If I could give my life to someone else I would. It is very dark and lonely place. However, the fact that you reached out with your post here, in my eyes its mean that deep down you are reaching for help. This group is lovely but as Millibob and Alwayshope wrote there is help out there and it is reachable. You just need to pick up the phone and make the first call. 

Please let us know how your first call gone.

Lots of love

Dafna

Hello Michael  (Ive seen the light ). Thank you for posting again.  I am not going to repost the help details I gave you before but I will if you ask me. Needless to say we have a great deal of resources we can put in your direction - counselling, practical help and general support - we just need you to connect with us.

We are here to support you through you cancer journey - but we are here for general support - moral support - financial support and help - practical support - the only thing we can't do is make Birmingham City win the FA Cup - but we can still talk about it with you.

We are a decent bunch and are here for you - just give us a chance and ask what ever you want - we are here.

Best wishes - Brian.

Hi Michael,

There's lots of people here in a similar position to you and they are able to carry on as normal for a long time with the excellent treatment available. All is not lost. 

It's not ideal to be dealing with this if you are on your own with no support, but this is a good place for a chat. Let us know when you found out you had cancer and what treatment you are having. 

Best wishes

L

Michael,  I think most of us were hit by our initial diagnosis and generally we reacted badly.  I remember initially being told I was on a palliative pathway when I was waiting for chemo, feeling very low and really thinking the end was close.  Nearly 7 years later I am still here.

I don’t know anything about your diagnosis or treatment plan or your personal circumstances so it isn’t easy to offer support, other than to say we are with you.  It is your choice how you go forward but if you need help, it is certainly here.  Best wishes. David

Hi Mad man I felt like you in 2020 after a heart attack and cancer that spread , not to mention partner of 30 years leaving and cancer again and major surgery and now cancer again that has spread. It is normal to feel like the end of the world but it is far from it . You will find out that there is light at the end of the tunnel and this time will pass. All the Best regards Minmax

Just to say that we are still here if you want to chat or need information.