Terminal prostate cancer

Hello Unsure,

Welcome to the Online Community. I am sorry to see that your husband has been diagnosed with prostate cancer. Having a diagnosis of cancer in a loved one is a worrying and stressful time and it is natural to have fears and worries about it.

I will pop some links below that maybe of help.............

Advanced prostate cancer | Macmillan Cancer Support- this link has some information about prostate cancer and the treatments that your husband may be offered. If you scroll to the bottom of the page there is some info about contacting Macmillan in other ways if you need to.

Supporting someone | Macmillan Cancer Support - this link has information about practical and emotional support

Supporting someone with incurable cancer forum - Macmillan Online Community- The prostate cancer forum is a good place to share and get support from people who are going through the same experiences as you and your husband, however there is also another forum that may interest you and it is for families who are supporting someone with an incurable diagnosis. 

I hope these may help a bit but if there is anything else, please do ask

Jane

Hello Unsure, I am just one of many women who post here and also receive support here. We all have loved ones with a prostate cancer diagnosis. Some of our menfolk have more advanced cancer than others but I think all of us have two things in common - fears and worries. 

my husband was diagnosed last September and I seem to have spent most of the time since as a jibbering wreck and working my way through the whole gamut of emotions ranging from fear, anger, panic, etc. I also spent a lot of time in tears!  Those darned tears were never far away - more so if someone was kind to me!

I gather from the heading of your post that your husband has been told that he is incurable? That said, I do hope that your doctors are able to find something in their war chest to manage the condition for as long as possible.

I feel sure that you will get a lot of support on this forum and it will be good to hear how you are getting on from time to t8me.

best wishes

Hi Unsure,

As Worried Wife has said, we understand your fears and worries. However, you say terminal, but do you mean incurable. My husband has advanced prostate cancer which has spread to his bones in places. He can only really have hormone treatment which he tolerates fairly well, although the mood swings are difficult for both of us to cope with at times.

Whilst it is not curable, it is treatable and we are approaching 2 years since his diagnosis. He is 78 and not in the best of health anyway, with other problems, but nevertheless he is still with us. I am glad you have reached out and joined this forum and you will hear from lots of guys who have had advanced cancer and are still typing away giving advice and comfort to all you have joined. Treatments are improving all the time and whilst not curing the incurable, they are certainly giving our loved ones a better chance of surviving for a long time. 

It would be helpful to others if you can tell us a bit more about your husband's diagnosis such as his initial psa, what if any his grade or gleason score is and what treatment he is being offered. 

Best regards

Gina