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Morning Sian

Welcome to the club no one wants to be in - not quite a partner but almost a woman with these blessed hormones. it would help if you put up your husbands full results, Gleason score etc to give the full picture.

From the mans side it's hard at first to come to terms with a diagnosis, You think you are fit and along comes this cancer, you cant even see it yet it's there and you are ill. 

We men are all different though and I sure some of the wives/partners on here will be able to help.

It took me a couple of months for it to sink in and I think I was hard on Mrs Millibob but now I appreciate her support and welcome her input with my meetings and treatment - and at present - as I am in the middle of Radiotherapy - her help with me being tired and grumpy.

Good luck with your joint journey through this.

Kind Regards - Brian.

Siam, I totally agree with Brian.  It does take a while to sink in.

The most important thing for your husband is to have you beside him.

There are more and more wives and partners in this forum now.  It's also great for us men to see the woman's side of things.  It helps us to be a better person.

Don't take anything personal if your husband is grumpy.

We are doing our best, complete with mood swings, hot flushes, thanks to the Hormones.

Keep in touch with how you are both doing.

All the best.

Hi Sian,

I am so sorry to hear about your husband. The diagnosis of pc is quite a shock for not only our husbands but for us wives and partners too. First it is the fear of the unknown and then as things progress, dealing with the treatments offered and the side effects of those.

What treatments has your husband been offered? It might be an idea to put more detail in your profile so we can perhaps offer more help.

My profile has changed. Initially my husband was just not eating but it turns out it was due to something else, microscopic colitis and now he is on steroids to treat it, he is eating me out of house and home!! As for treatment, he can only really have the hormone injections as chemo is not good for his heart condition. So far, he is doing well on them and his psa has gone down from nearly 1200 to 2.1. However it has spread to the bones. He was diagnosed over 18 months ago with stage 4. Initially he was on Degaralex injections once a month but they gave him so much pain on the injection site that it took three weeks for it to subside and then it was time for another one. He is now on Prostap every three months. 

The worst thing I find dealing with is his mood swings. He can burst into tears at the drop of a hat and gets very depressed. I go to all the appointments with him as he gets very confused and can never remember what they have said. You don't say how old your husband is but mine is 78 on Friday so am not sure how much of this is the cancer and how much of him just being a grumpy old man!!!

Do let us have more details and take comfort from all the great members of this forum, some of whom are regular writers and always there to help, two of whom have already replied.

Best regards

Gina

Sian,

Gina has lots of really good advice.

Do go to all of your husband's appointments.  I am the same as Gina's husband, getting confused all the time.

Gina, tell Richard Happy Birthday for Friday from me and Tracey.

What's wrong with being a Grumpy Old Man?

That's a strange diet Richard is on Gina 

Is he?

Well he has eaten half the house already , still two walls remaining though!!

Don't forget to leave the lights on.  Richard said he wants 78 candles on his Birthday Cake!

Oh that's good, I will be able to turn the central heating off then with all that heat from the candles!! Hey, we have hijacked yet another topic again, back to the naughty corner!!

Moi!!!

I'm trying to be good.  Must be easily led.