My Life is full off Don't knows

Don't give up ' should I give up'!! We can all hear you!!! Loud and clear ! Promise!! 

My daughter is doing creative writing at Lincoln University and your message made me so think of her creative posts ( She got a first for writing about me in her poem 'Mother Fuck*r', not nice but very special!) Have you thought or do you write in all this insanity? 

Macmillan DOES have people to talk to and I hope someone on this forum scoops you up. One step at a time.

Hi,

Don’t give up. 
18 months ago I also went for a biopsy but canceled due to high blood pressure. I contacted my local GP who monitored it for 7 days. After that she decided to put me on 5mg Amlodipine which I still take once a day. 6 weeks later I received an appointment from my local hospital to have my biopsy done under a general anesthesia. 
18 months later I’ve had my radiotherapy (37 sessions). Yes I still get hot flushes from the HT but it is manageable.

I’m now enjoying a new lease of life, went to my first football match in 50 years on Saturday (I saw Arsenal women play at the Emirates Stadium) on the back of that I’ve ordered tickets for 4 more matches.

So don’t give up hope but look to the future.

Tyler

Hi

It's a daunting time for you with lots of questions - some of which you may not even know to ask.

The Macmillan nurses are great and you can speak with them on line or calling them. They can help with finance questions as well as medical. Give them a call I'm sure it will help.

Stuart

You're going through what a lot of us have already been through, stay strong and take one thing at a time, we're all behind you. If you need to talk to someone then use the free phone MacMillan line 0808 808 00 00. If you want want financial advice then try the "Ask An Expert" link at the top of this page, just below Online Community. Whatever you do, just speak to someone, and if you feel you're sinking then demand to see your GP and get some anti depressants, and a referral to a mental health nurse. I wish I'd got some happy pills 6 months ago, absolutely magic, even a low dose. Good luck.

As everyone is screaming "Don't give up!!"

When I was diagnosed last year I felt a lot of what you are going through.  The PIP was a disaster for me.  I needed help but like you said, being a typical bloke, you find it hard to ask.

My partner done most of the asking, but when they rang me I wouldn't admit that I needed help, just saying "I'm ok" all the time.  Then with the PIP, they looked at my medical records and said that I don't need help.

I was crying out for help but when it came down to it, I bottled out.  This all went against me, so I got nothing.

Make sure you ask for help and get it noted in your medical records.  Do you have a partner who can help you?

I kept working all through my treatment.  PIP said because I was working I wasn't eligible for help.  Work was keeping me sane, giving me something else to concentrate on.  It's a vicious circle.

Now the bright side, you are in the right place, everyone here has been through or is going through what you are.

I've been on Macmillan over a year now, this forum is really good for getting answers, advice and just someone to connect with.

As everyone else is saying "Don't give up!!!"

It could be fear of the unknown, that's what got me every time.

Counselling really helped.

After reading you post and the response, you have been given great advice by the rest of the group