My dad has prostate cancer

Libertine,

Ask your Mum to take a look at this forum, she will be pleasantly surprised at the number of wives and partners who regularly post.

"Libertine's Mum - You are not alone. "

The help and support and advice from the men and women, all from personal experiences can be really uplifting.

Whatever stage your husband is at, someone here will have been through that.

Even if your Mum comes in and uses your login she was be pleasantly surprised.  If she's nervous, let her do it when you are there. Then in no time she'll be off doing it by herself (but remember she won't be really by herself, there are loads of us, just the click of a button away).

It really does help!!!

Well said Steve. Tell your mum she might eventually start laughing at some of the silly comments a few of us make. Laughter really helps and of course, a positive attitude. 

Gina

Gina,

I do try my best you know.  

Silly comments!!!  Hmm... Can't say I have ever seen any.

Gina, they've got me mucking out Cattle Pens now, even the Cows are looking, thinking "What ARE you doing???"

I'm knackered!!!

Slightly different from record keeping. Why on earth are you having to do that? Is it punishment for bad behaviour? 

Gina

Hi Libertine, sorry to hear about your dad, and your mam's problem with acceptance, sometimes spouse's can take a long time coming to terms with a diagnosis, it's fear of losing the most important person in their lives and being left alone.

Steve and Gina are right encourage your mam to look at the site, you could also phone Macmillan free phone, they are really good at helping.

Also it would help us if you could provide some details, PSA, Gleason scores ect.

All the best Ulls 

Gina, Rant time:

The real reason is that the company is too tight to pay the staff a decent wage, we haven't had a pay-rise since before Covid.

Supposed to be 40 hours a week but we are lucky if we get 30.  Not to mention that we are working 4 day weeks most of the time.

A lot of good workers have had enough and left, more and more are leaving and not being replaced.

It's down to them now not having enough staff to do the job, even the General Manager ia having to work on the line.  

The guy who shoots the cattle is being forced to work on his own, he normally mucks the Pens out, so muggins here said I'd try to help him out by mucking out.

The Sh you know who was caked into the future straw, nearly killed me trying to get it picked up.

When I walked home it was as if I had just gone 12 rounds with the Radiation treatment.  Took me nearly 25 minutes to walk home, normally about 7.

Had enough yet!!;

Had a well deserved shower when I got home ( I was stinking of the 2 things that Cows do most (and Milk wasn't involved).

Think I might change my name to Pat (...CowPat).

Just got up for work, my back is crippling me.  My actual job, I really enjoy it... but this!!!

What is the saying... something about straw breaking the Camel's back... this time it is caked in Sh.

So in answer to your question, no it wasn't for bad behaviour, I was trying to help.

Anyway, I can now hear 75%.  The left ear came out as a big chunk, so she started on my right ear.  Got that about 1/2 clear.

So, no more subtitles... Woo-Hoo!!!

Rant finished.

Libertine, I know it sounds silly, but if you can get your Mum to talk about this it really does help.

Last year after my diagnosis, I was feeling like it was only me, basically it wasn't until I came onto the Macmillan Prostate Cancer Support forum I got it into my head that it wasn't just me.

Just by talking about it takes a lot of pressure off.

Congratulations on getting your hearing back, bet everything seems so loud 

Shh!!! Not so loud!

Doesn't half make a difference, no subtitles.

Good to hear the birds again.