Hi all,
So I am so very new here, for me even googling 'Macmillan support' and finally reaching out to my current employer and GP, has been a big step but at the same time a huge relief. My dad has been living with prostate cancer for 13 years or so, up until a few months ago he was told at his regular scan that his PSA is creeping up, meaning the only option is chemotherapy. With losing my mum back in 2010 with breast cancer which was caught too late, and had spread to the bones, lungs and liver.. this came quite a huge shock as I never thought my dad would get poorly. I never imagined he would ever get poorly, even though I know he's been on tablets for the last 13 years. And with having a bad experience with cancer, my ultimate fear is of the same thing happening to my dad.. I am scared stiff, numb and I can't quite process it. I am only 25, I lost my mum at 14, and various other family members also to cancer, and recently, helping my Grandmother with colon cancer (which has all gone, and no chemo was needed! THANK GOD!) .. just coming on here and writing this message has instantly took a weight off my shoulders.. just looking to talk with others with similar experiences or just any advice or kind words. Life is pretty crap at the moment. As by my name.. I really am looking for the light at the end of the tunnel..
It's never an easy situation - but his having 13 years with little in the way of problems tells you that it's a slow disease: there are still options, and he's probably got years still to come.
Do stick around if there's any specific issues, there's usually someone who's been there, or knows something about it.
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Heinous
If I can't beat this, I'm going for the draw.
Meanwhile, my priority is to live while I have the option.
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