Living with the emotional after effects of prostate cancer diagnosis

I can empathise with your situation completely. The diagnosis I had in August September 22 made me a different person immediately and it’s taken a lot of soul searching to understand who I am now.

The mental side of this couples disease is the biggest issue alongside the masculinity problems I felt. But I suffered terribly with the dark thoughts not the positives that hide away in the dust of your mind. You probably need counselling by someone close to you or a professional stranger that can help you see beyond the rain and look forward to sunshine in whatever way possible. It’s been three years and I’ve used professionals twice but right now I need a little top up, such is life.

This safe place I call home - the MacMillan Forum - has been a life saver in my wellbeing. I take and I give as I go along. You can use it more to if you want. The fears and tears are always there but someone else has been there too. They might answer your call, if you give them a chance.

Ask your cancer care nurse for a referral to something that might help. I don’t know what’s available but they’ll be something to help you.

Im glad to see you have asked here, as I say it’s safe and anonymous. I see you’ve not added a profile to your page yet. That’s entirely up to you but would help others with similar situations give you a lift. The doldrums are ever present due to your worries but positivity can come from stories of experiences “we” have used to help us that “we” share in total anonymity (if you so wish). We are in this barrel of laughs together all in different stages but we all need each others help occasionally.

Ask for help through your local hospice too. I was surprised how helpful it is when you get inside the door that, I personally, didn’t want to walk through. But I did and I am on the mend. You will too, be on the mend soon. 

Just wanted to pop in and say we are all here for you . 
my husband gets so uptight when he’s due bloods . It’s just awful.We go into out local Maggie Centre and chat with a councillor who is very understanding and supportive 

sending you best wishes & hugs 

liz & OH xx