A great big 'Thank You'

Andy (AndyK ) I am so pleased that you found some help from the folks on here.  I think we are able to support you with PCa related items and hopefully you have been given all the numbers for organisations that will be able to give you additional support above and beyond our experience.  We all have a common bond of PCa and will try and support you. I really hope you can get some help with your other problems.  Best wishes, David

I don;t know how long you have been on HT and suffering from Hot flushes but if they really are that bad you can get medication for them so speak to your GP as soon as you can to get that medication.  Until then wear layers that can be taken off as you "heat up" and we still have not gone back to having a duvet as it is much better with cool sheets a blanket and bedcover as one layer or two can be removed as and when you start getting warmer.  My wife swears by putting her wrists under cold running water for a short while to cool herself - she has been suffering from hot flushes far longer than I did when I went through HT back in 2016, For her it's 12 or 13 years now and for these poor women it can go on for the rest of their lives.  she has also used a cooling spray and had wet wipes by the side of the bed to cool her down.  You could also try Sage tablets which many people swear by.

Whatever you do now yes, do it for yourself you are important and both sons are important whether your biological children or not.  Hope you can build a relationship with both of them and be happy.  I sympathise with you as my youngest son is in a bad relationship with the Mother of his two children and my only two grandchildren.  I didn't really believe people like her existed but she really is not a nice person and has been quite a challenge to deal with by both our family and her two ex's families as well.  Fortunately the two grandsons, the eldest is 20 today, have grown up well adjusted despite that and I am proud of my son, his brother and the rest of our family  for being able to continue a relationship with them for all of their lives especially when it has quite often been against the wishes of their Mother.

All the very best to you for the future and hope your further treatment goes well.