Anger.

Al985 1 hour ago

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Im laid on mh bed watching my beloved Leeds. Well trying watch as my head is trseem to move on. ying to get round what has happened to me. I do not know if it is normal but my whole being is consumed with anger directed at my surgeon and I have no idea how to bring it under control. No matter how I try I can not move on. I certainly cant believe the oncologist when she says this treatment is curative, why should I yjats what the surgeon said but then he didnt share vital information, didnt explain about the positive margins and then admitted he didnt read the biopsy result untol 12 months after he got it, a biopsy result which confirmed a cancer had broken out of the prostate capsule. I know I woulx not ha e agreed to nerve sparing surgery if I knew about PNI. Lord knows how much damage was caused by not reading that there was lymph node involvement.

Rant over, siggestions on how to deal with this gratefully accepted.

Al985

Mr U 1 hour ago

You are doing there best thing you can by ranting to us.

We k ow what you’re talking about, from the curative/non curative pathways and the forgotten histories and horrors. It’s just not fair for me nor you. So here is where you should vent your spleen.

Forgiveness is a way of getting over the horrors, but you’re still allowed to think about hitting the surgeons and his aids — because you can.

Venting here will help you calm down when you get those meetings that are important for other reasons than the ones you’ve come for.

Vent here…

Take care AI985

Al985 16 minutes ago in reply to Mr U

Hi Mr U and thanks for your reply. I just cant seem to think rationally at the moment as I bounce between high, the new oncologist is kind and caring , to deep lows when I think of all the issues I have with my surgeon. I dont have the dnergy to put in a complaint , mainly because he will wriggle out of it, I know.

I did contact the GMC who advised me there were some potential issues around duty of care and professional standards but Im not sure if I could cope if they dismiss my concerns.

It is 4 weeks before my next PSA which the oncologists thinks will take me to 0.1 so she can do a PET. scan and starf treatment.

In the early stages operatively, I thought I had got away with it, but I'd certainly pay back time now.

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