This is a strange topic but one I am curious about having had a prostatectomy this year!
Have other men who underwent a prostatectomy had questions about “side effects”?
It comes mostly from other men who knew you were receiving prostate treatment but after you say the word “prostatectomy” the questions start being asked! Some from people you don’t even know very well.
I guess I shouldn’t be surprised since it deals with a man losing the ability to get an erection which is every man’s biggest fear!
My thought when I first told someone, was a feeling that they were thinking “ poor guy he is no longer a man”! That’s an embarrassing and humiliating feeling for most guys, it was for me!
As if that were not bad enough, then you have the bold guys who actually say “ can you still have sex?” Very personal but usually you both know the answer…”No”.
On top of that, I have had some guys jokingly offer to “help out”! They are usually close buddy’s who you have talked smack with before, but who don’t understand how this situation is troubling you. It makes you wonder if they are really joking.
Lastly, does your inability to have sex with your wife make you feel guilty? Do you keep thinking about her physical needs and if so what you should you do about it?
I have discovered that men who have had prostate problems, especially those who have had a prostatectomy, tend to console each other and become a counselor to other guys going through these same feelings and looking for answers.
