Hello all, first time on the forum. May I wish everyone all the best of love, luck and happiness. To be on this forum isn’t what anyone planned for - thank you so much for those that made it possible.
My OH has stage 4 (Gleason 8) metastatic prostrate cancer, and now has developed a “very aggressive small cell cancer” on his neck. Hormone treatment has stopped working. He has had radiotherapy to all his sites.
Had first chemo a few weeks ago, new cancer diagnosed since.
He’s a great believer in ‘positive mental attitude’.
This probably sounds really negative… But how can I cope (please) with him saying ‘it’s just a glitch, I’ll get over this. We’ll go scuba diving (etc) when I’m cured’.
We both (surely) know it cannot be cured.
I feel like I’m living a lie going along with this… have a few friends that are great supports - but he won’t acknowledge that we need to know what he wants at the end of his day. Am I being awful, here?
I’ve shed so many tears (hiding them from him) that I feel I can’t cope any more. I know he’s a ‘bucket list’ and, I being self employed, would gladly bankrupt myself to help him fulfill it.
Any advice so very gratefully received. Thank you for reading
