Hi Guys,
I'm now well over 12 months on from my last Zoladex implant and a couple of months on from an aborted 'testosterone replacement' therapy attempt. Nothing has worked to replace my desire/success at sexual contact with my partner. My 'old man' hasn't regrown and is rather like a tree that has been felled - a stump! and the desire I used to frequently enjoy (2-3 times a week) has disappeared entirely. She no longer participates in any attempt at sex because she has found it elsewhere because 'I'm a failure', and she doubts if I can even achieve penetration.
It's sad, but she seems to think I should readily accept that 'we' are over.
I had very rare failed attempt at stimulation this morning to no avail. I’m still on Zoladex and will be forever but the mind is the other problem area. I am saddened by your plight but don’t ever give in to this nightmare couples cancer. I would suggest counselling of some kind for you both but thats not going to be easy. Patience is the virtue you will need in spades, your partner too.
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