A very sad message from Joeven’s wife.

  • 38 replies
  • 183 subscribers
  • 2676 views

I write the following with an enormous heavy broken heart.

I'm sorry to inform you all that Joe finally lost his fight and has sadly passed away.
After a 9 year fight and many gruelling treatments they all took their toll and Joe's kidney's failed.

Joe always thought that each and every poster on this site was his 2nd family, he spent countless hours contributing to this site and was chuffed to pieces when Macmillan acknowledged his contributions.

He wrote to each individual with a personal and understanding approach, he understood how scared not just the person who had been diagnosed was but their family members were too. He was a helping hand for anyone who just needed reassurance, guidance and to know there was someone there if you just needed to talk.

I truly hope that as you face your own journey's you will remember Joe as caring, compassionate, helpful and a friend. When times become difficult and you just need a bit of reassurance, think of Joe as he will be watching over you all willing your journeys to continue, as do I.

I appreciate that this site touches so many people from all different locations and everyone is going through their own situation but if you would like to say a person farewell, Joe's funeral will be on the 23rd April at 11.40am at Agecroft Cemetery, Langley Road, Pendlebury, Swinton M27 8SS, there will be an opportunity to share your experience if you'd like as many don't know how many lives he actually touched.

I end with, Joe my one true love, you can rest now, free from pain and I hope you now have the peace you so truly deserve.  From your very proud wife...

RIP my love x

  • Hello Mandy. Joe was one of the first people to respond to me when I first came onto the site a couple of years ago but underlying his strength was the strength that you gave him to carry on with his fight and which he often acknowledged. I lost a husband 30 years ago to a massive heart attack and know what a hole this leaves. Nothing can replace Joe but as you say, 'Take small steps every day as every step counts, never give up and don't ever give in'. Joe was, and remains a real inspiration for us as my current husband and I are fighting advanced metastatic prostate cancer together.

    We wish you and your family some peace and knowledge that Joe's legacy is continuing as his words remain on the site for others to gain strength from.

  • Hello Mandy

    It was the least I could do for Joe. Having "spoken" to him many times and knowing how much his help and support was valued by myself and other Community Members I just had to be there.

    I am sorry I didn't have chance to say more to you but I felt it more appropriate for you to be with your family at that point.

    It's a little known fact but Joe held one of the Community's "Special Contribution Badges" for help and support he provided to other members.

    Special Contribution Badge.

    I send you my love and best wishes to you and the family for the future - Joe's posts and memories will live on in the Community and we will not forget him.

    if I can do anything for you moving forward please don't hesitate to contact me.

    Kind Regards - Brian x

    Community Champion badge

    Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm

    Strength, Courage, Faith, Hope, Defiance, VICTORY.

    I am a Macmillan volunteer.

  • I'm very sorry for your loss, Joe's story gave me hope when my husband was first diagnosed last year with more or less the same as Joe's and he was always encouraging to everyone on on here.

    Bless you and your family one day at a time.

  • Hi Mandy, sadly I never got to meet Joe in person but ‘spoke’ with him many times through this forum.  He helped many people on here and his sage words live on.  Take care, David

  • Like all the others speaking, I am moved to tears by your loss.

    I believe that Joe will be looking over you and your family, as well as his adopted family, in this forum.

    God bless you and keep moving forward, taking those small steps.

    Steve

    Steve

    Changed, but not diminished.
  • Hello Mandy,

    I have just found out of Joe`s passing, I actually feel a bit numb & shocked at this sad news. I first `met` Joe not long after I was diagnosed just over 5 years ago. Joe was a wealth of great information and advice, he was obviously a stalwart and courageous man. He never shirked away from giving advice to anyone at all and I can assure you Mandy, he was an extremely well respected member on this forum and he will be sorely missed by all. My sincere condolences to you and your family & wish you all the best in the future. RIP Joe.

    Take care, Tom Disappointed

  •   Mandy, Joe meant a lot to us in the forum.

    As  said:

    Like all the others speaking, I am moved to tears by your loss.

    I believe that Joe will be looking over you and your family, as well as his adopted family, in this forum.

    God bless you and keep moving forward, taking those small steps.

    Take Care 

    Steve (SteveCam)

  • Hi  (Mandy, of course, in this instance) - what a lovely long post you put on, honouring Joe: and what a thoughtful thing to do!  As you can see, we all loved him as one of our “seniors”.  I wish you and your family only happy thoughts & memories of such a fine man.   AW