It is real

Hi Shar

We are all different as human beings and the very first two words cancer patients utter on diagnosis are "Why Me?"

I am perhaps slightly different to most on here as their diagnosis came after visits to the GP and Outpatient visits, mine was a hospital admission caused by acute kidney failure - caused by an enlarged prostate - I was in hospital for 11 days over Christmas/New Year 2021/2022 and received my informal diagnosis then followed by the formal diagnosis 2 weeks later. My Radiotherapy took place at a specialist cancer hospital in Oldham - The Christie.

During the first 11 days and during the RT treatment I saw and talked to people who were terminal with other cancers - I do also read and post on a couple of other threads on MacMillan Cancer Support.

At first, like you I thought this isn't fair - I am 67 although still working I could retire anytime. However I have seen, sympathised, talked to and held hands with people who are cancer patients but not in a good place.

Deep down I have had sad thoughts, The guilt that I may be taken away from my family too early - but each time I go back to what I have seen - one person in particular I was talking to said "on your last visit here for your final RT treatment ring that bell for me - because I never will".

The more I thought about it the more I thought 98% of people on the Prostate Cancer thread receive curative treatment, or treatment that enable them to maintain quality of life.

You are right Shar - it isn't fair - but we are the lucky ones.

Stick with us - think of all the good times to come - you and your husband will beat this cancer and you will be cruising before you know it.

I apologise to Shar and anyone reading this if you feel it's blunt - but to me it's reality and it's how my personal feelings are - and why I am still here - I want to help as many people as I can who have this dreadful cancer.

As you are all aware my posts are normally full of dry humour - this isn't however it's personal and it explains my feelings and may help you to understand yours.

Best wishes to all

Brian.

Such kind and wise words as usual Brian. We are lucky as it can be treated and I just need to keep telling myself that. Can't wait until that bell is rung, you will probably hear it from miles away xx

Hi Shar

Sorry about your condition, we’ve all been through what your experiencing, but you are right this is treatable, that’s if your in the incurable bracket. New meds come out all the time, with trials available.

Have you had any scans ? Any information you can give us helps with us being able to tell you what to expect.

Just live life as you would, fit any appointments in between your weekly activities, your team will know how to deal with your condition options are many. PC is a very slow growing cancer, so don’t rush into a decision talk to your wife, if there’s a Maggies near you there excellent with help.

Stay safe

Joe