Hospital appointment alone?

Hi Missy - No way is that right. Surely you are able to go with him, the older we get the less information we take in and a cancer diagnosis is a big thing

I would be ringing the hospital and telling them as his carer and daughter you WILL be coming in with him.

I think you need to be pushy but polite.

Hope all goes well - Brian.

Thanks Brian, yes I won’t be taking no for an answer. 

Hi Missy, this is to try to limit lots of people attending ( believe me, some people treat it as a family day out!) however, if your Dad needs somebody with him to support because of disability, frailty, anxiety, etc etc he has an absolute right to have that support and I would be extremely surprised if you were challenged - so long as it’s not a big family get- together!

It would’ve only been mum and I. My mum says she’s happy to wait at the cafe or something and just let me go in because she knows I’ll ask more questions. To be honest my dad isn’t frail or anything like that but I just know he won’t ask that much and I also just feel like it’s quite a daunting experience to go in alone x 

Hi Missy

I do believe your allowed to go with your dad, I have been to many meetings always with my wife, I see many people young and old going together, I can understand that the don’t have facilities to cater for all, a quick my father does not understand what is happening should be enough.

Stay safe

Joe

Hi Missy - It's hopefully a one in a lifetime consultation. I took my wife with me - she's been a nurse working in all types of wards for the NHS from A & E to specialist units - and she had issues in fully understanding some of the information we were given.

As Worriedwife says - people treat the hospital as a day out - I was being admitted for my planned TURP operation in November and one bloke turned up with his wife and three adult children - at 7.00am just for an admission!!

Three heads are better than one and don't forget your questions and notepad.

Kind Regards - Brian

Its a throwback to the covid regulations and requirements. Most (if not all) hospitals will still require you to wear a mask, please do so if you can.

You need to be there as it can be quite a shock. I got a hardback notebook that I take with me to all appointments, I write things to ask, (and things others remind me to ask),  as the days pass, its easy to forget in that 30 minutes facing the Doctor, then I write the answers as well!! That way nothing gets forgotten. Plus its a memory of this period, it will pass, its just a bit daunting at the moment. 

And its fine for both you and Mum to go in, they will both need your support, sometimes our wives are forgotten, but this affects them as much as us guys, its my wife who supports me far more than the doctors etc, your mum is probably really worried about your dad, but may not show it. 

Thanks Joe 

Yes I think you’re right. My mum should be there too. I’m taking a notebook in and I’ll write down questions to ask. Thanks for your reply 

Has he had a biopsy?