Almost three years ago I was diagnosed with penile cancer, within weeks I had a 50% of my penis removed. A year later I had to have a second operation to remove some scar tissue that was affecting the way I had a wee..
When people found out I had cancer, a normal questions were “what type?” Or “where?”. To start with I was embarrassed almost ashamed to say where. About six months after my second operation, I decided to do a half marathon to raise money, to give something back to cancer charities. On my just giving page. I announced to the world that I had penis cancer and what I then consider a life changing operation. The sense of relief was fantastic. Friends and workmate were supportive and curious, asking every possible question.. all of which I answered.
Since then I have had my ups and downs (more downs) as I came to terms with my new body. About a 18 months ago I confided in my consultant that I was still struggling with anxiety related to the surgery. This was affecting many aspects of my life, both personal and my career. He recommended that I talk to a therapist to see if this could make any difference.
Since then I have undertaken 2 bouts of therapy. The latest bout identified that I was suffering from Post traumatic stress. 3 months later my therapy has finished and I’m feeling so much better.
So my advice for anyone unlucky enough to be on or starting this journey is, if you are struggling to come to terms with what is/has happened to you..speak out, tell your doctor or speak to your McMillan centre (it’s only fair to say that other charities and support groups exist to support men’s health issues)
Talking my issues through and coming to terms has made a massive positive difference to me, I’m not unique.,.. so it might help you to.
Lastly, if you are just starting this journey and looking for help and advice, talk to your doctor, the nurses or a men’s health charity, ask any question.,.. there is no such thing as a stupid question..
