Hi everyone, I’m new here and feeling very scared. I’m 44 now but know a thing or 2 about losing people to cancer as I lost my nanna (my mums mum) and my mum to cancer 3 months apart from each other when I was only 19. As an only child it was hard to take and felt I’d lost my whole world. Fast forward to being 44 and I’ve just lost my dad to heart failure 10 weeks ago which has been hard, but the hardest thing is that my husband has just been diagnosed with a large mass on his pancreas 3 days ago. He’s been in pain for 3 months now and lost lots of weight with night sweats. Everytime we went to the GP or went to A and E they gave him no pain relief and said they suspected a stomach ulcer or gastritis. Anyway eventually he got a CT scan with the consultant gastroenterologist. We got called back in pretty quickly to be told about the mass in his pancreas. The doctor pretty much said it was cancer without saying it. He just kept saying he was very worried andthat he suspected it was very serious. Now we are in limbo waiting to hear from the pancreas management team to understand exactly what we are dealing with. But I’m scared it’s all too late. He’s 9.5 stone with severe pain and no appetite. I feel he’s wasting away in front of me already and I don’t know what to do. We only got married 8 months ago and thought this year would be our year to travel, but our whole world has come crashing down around us. The prognosis for this cancer is terrible and I’m so scared I Wii not have him for much longer. I just don’t know how to get him to eat. Even the high protein shakes are hard for him to get down.
