My husband had lost so much weight and wasnt eating and was in pain.He was referred for an endoscopy and a follow up ct scan.We were the informed there was concern about his pancreas and there would be an MDT meeting the following week . I maybe naively understood from the converstion that we, as a family unit would be informed after the meeting. In the meantime my husband had to be rushed to hospital in agonising abdominal pain. The ambulance crew were amazing but they had no control of the hours and hours we would wait on a stretcher in a hospital corridor amongst so many other patients. Hearing patients and staff constantly saying there was no beds and just slowley realizing that everything we had heard on the news was true. I walked the corridor and saw people suffering like my husband and felt utter dispair. That vision will never leave me. Because of his poorly condition we were eventually found a bed and the medical staff were amazing.The doctor said he had pancreatitis and damage to his spleen. During his hospital stay I was relieved after all maybe they could treat him and all would be well.Only after some days in the hospital did I discover that the MDT meeting was going ahead. I knew the MTD meeting was on a teusday so my daughter and I arrived as early as visiting could be.When we arrived I asked my husband if anything had been said and he said no. We decided to find staff and ask, at that point my husband just gasped and said he was told (ALONE) that they had found a mass that could be malignant. When he was told he told me he gulped in shock but pretended to cough. I felt his pain and I have no words. Meanwhile that day no one spoke to us as his family. We were left with utter shock and horror. Suffice to say I went home and had a panic attack that I could not control for hours.We are a family unit we love each other it is beyond belief that my husband was left alone with a lifechanging diagnosis and we as his family were not there to hold him, support him, love him. This is only the beggining of our journey, Hes since had a biopsies taken, and we wait more weeks for the results. Meanwhile our beloved dog had just died and we are in a world of hurt and pain.
Hi Minnessa
So sorry to hear about what you have been going through, that does sound really dreadful and on top of all that losing your dog. Waiting for results is really difficult and of course no matter the result your husband is still ill.
How are you coping? Do post on here whenever and you might also like to look in on our Family and friends forum and/or Carers only forum I know I needed a lot of support if I was to be the best for my wife.
<<hugs>>
Steve
