Is anyone else experiencing this? My husband is undergoing chemotherapy and awaiting a scan to see what effect, if any, it has had on the tumour. He has slowly become very withdrawn over the past few weeks. He has never been the most communicative of people but this is quite a marked difference to normal. I find it hard to get a reasonable conversation going. I imagine he is mulling over the future and, being the person he is, not able to express himself. It’s obviously impacting on our daily routine and, on a purely selfish note, makes my days seem very long. I am glad to get out occasionally and then feel so guilty!
I don’t suppose there’s not much I can do to make him communicate more - just wanted to see if anyone else is experiencing this.
Sending love and support to all you out there going through this nightmare
Hi EnglishRose
I'm sorry to read that your husband has become uncommunicative since being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I think that we all handle a cancer diagnosis differently. My way of dealing with it is to talk the hindlegs of a donkey about it because for me, talking about it makes it easier to deal with. However, that's not the way for everyone.
I can see that you've joined the carers only group and I hope you don't mind me suggesting that this would be a good place to talk to other carers about how they've coped with a partner or family member who doesn't want to talk.
You might also find this booklet from Macmillan about talking to someone who has cancer helpful. You can either view it online or order it in paper form and you and your husband might find it a useful tool to get talking about how you both feel.
It would be great if you could pop something about your husband's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
Sending virtual (((hugs)))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
