Post Op and Chemo Pancreatic Cancer

Hi CatLyn. I just dropped by and noticed you've not had a reply to your post just yet. I've a different type of cancer but I agree it's very difficult to find someone to talk the nitty gritty stuff to. Unless you've actually travelled this "roller-coaster" ride you don't really comprehend where we're coming from. The "C" word either drives people away or causes them to smother you. My hubby of over 40 years says I'm being a drama queen if he hears me replying to a friend on a phone call who's obviously asking how I am. Yes I'm cured but I still have little niggles of disquiet and for that I'm a drama queen!

Hopefully someone in this group will be along soon to chat but, in the meantime, it might be an idea to take a look at the Life after cancer forum you might find some answers there.

Sending all the best, B xx

Hello MrsBJH

Hope your day is going well and Thank you for your response/reply  much appreciated :)      I too found people either shy away completely or go totally overboard when the big C is mentioned.   I have also found that people dwindle.   What was once of great interest the day I  got told your treatments have worked ALL CLEAR  (which I was overjoyed about!!!!) they couldnt understand why I am not bursting with energy/running around like nothing has happened and not just getting back to everything as it was before or feign interest  by asking how are you? You start to answer but get cut off with "oh by the way bla blah blah"  so I dont answer now just say "samey samey"  "plodding on"  which is basically what they want to hear cos they just want to carry on with their humdrum normality   done their bit asking lol.      

I dont think your a Drama Queen - I too have niggles   its always there. Ok I'm  cured but its still in your mind lurking and jumps out  BOO!   I am definitely not the same physically and I have found over time its not improving.  Mentally I get terribly anxious/uptight  and what used to not bother me do   stupid things to others  but to me very very important.

Gone on for far tooooo long :)    he he he 

Be good to hear your woes etc....

Regards

CatLyn