Mum struggling with diagnosis

Hello Lreid

i am sorry to hear of your Mum’s diagnosis.

I am not medically qualified but my experience from being on here is that pancreatic cancer gives people different experiences. However, it is often the case that people with PC don’t want to eat. I really stressed about this with my husband and others have written the same. I realise now that it probably doesn’t matter. Try to encourage your Mum to eat but if she doesn’t want to just make sure she gets water.

You say you think your Mum has given up. Again what I learned from my experience was that the most important person is the patient. I don’t think people give up but society talks about ‘fighting cancer’ and we may feel we have to take all the interventions going. Your Mum may have thought about this and decided not to have chemo if offered. It can be a hard regime.

it is difficult but try to take one day at a time and support your Mum in her wishes.

Squeaky

Hi Squeaky,

Thank you for your reply.

Yes it's very difficult, and we're trying to support mum. She said she doesn't want chemo so we will respect this but it's hard. She has agreed to go to the Beatson centre on Friday so that's hopeful as she originally said no.

Best wishes and thank you again,

X

Hello Iread,

I feel sad to read that you are finding it difficult to understand your mums choices at this time. A close family member who has been diagnosed with PC also found it extremely difficult to eat at times. It’s totally understandable that you and your family want what you think is best for her......but I guess she knows best and wants to feel as comfortable as she can when feeling unwell. I am sure that she finds great comfort knowing that you are all supporting her.

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Hi Israel, 

Thank you for finding the time to reply. 

I know we must let my mum decide for herself what is best for her, and just be there for her no matter what she decides, however hard it might be.

Thank you for your kind words,

X