Dad - pancreatic cancer diagnosed aged 64, no symptoms

I am sorry to read your news , I am 72 and my diagnosis was prompted by jaundice. I am part way through chemo. I don’t recognise the figures I wasn’t given nor did I ask for any figures,

The statistics are difficult a recent Lancet gave a medium life expectancy of 4 months, a press release in the Guardian today  gave 3months. To put it simply half of us will die within 3 to 4 months of diagnosis. 

But your Dad may, by good fortune have found the tumour early and surgery is possible. Most of us present when the cancer is “doing something which we notice” and then likely non operable. 

I understand being fit ,not having other health issues and exercise help us face chemo and may give us a few more months, sadly not years.  And that’s what I am going for.

I hope all goes well and if it does tell us, we need good news.

Thank you for your kind response.
We have found out on Wednesday last week.

Thats it’s in his gallbladder and also has gone in to his stomach lining.

i also think there is more but they don’t want to tell us until Thursday in the mdt meeting.

i just want to make sure I'm strong as i will have my mom with me and also my dad.

So i am just trying to get as much information as I can.

Thank you.

Hi 1986,

I'm so sorry to hear that, it must have been a most incredible shock. How are you and the family getting on now? How did the MDT meeting go on Thursday?

I know you say you want to be strong for your family, and that's absolutely understandable, but I just want to make sure you know that you don't have to be 'strong' here. You can express what you're feeling, no matter what it is. 

Many thanks to Happytimes for sharing with 1986. I'm sorry to read about your own shock diagnosis. I'm very glad to see you both supporting one another.

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Update 

Hi thank you for your reply.

meeting went well the doctors was very good at explaining it all and took there time.

they have now said his primary cancer is bile duct.

its in the gallbladder pancreas and stomach lining.

i asked if it was just in the stomach and he did say no it’s now not contained in just that area.

Im not to sure what he did mean by that tho

As he didn’t say any other organs it’s in.

He had been offered palliative chemo.

And I think he will give that ago but he had a few things planned and doesn’t want to start for another 4 weeks.

we was told it’s a very aggressive cancer and it’s spreads fast.

If he will end up having the chemo I’m not to sure.?

Thank you