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I know how you feel. I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago and after 11 months of Chemo/Radiotherapy my tumour is stable. However I am living with crippling fatigue and the ever present prospect of the cancer growing again. I wish I had some words of comfort for you but I too am struggling 

My mum was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer April 2023. She had the Appleby surgery March 2024. She is still undergoing chemo. They have found a nodule in her left lung metastatic cancer and a tumour in her brain. I don’t know where we go from here. She had her spleen taken out and most of her pancreas removed. We thought she had a chance to live longer but now confused as a family. We don’t know what the secondary cancer means for prognosis.

Thankyou for responding.Sometimes words dont need to be said but just simply being heard. I also heard your fears,  its like you just wish the fear would go away.Its an awful diagnosis.Weve spent the last two days in hospital because his white cell count dropped so much. Then more fears come along and we worry if they will cancel the next chemo.In my soul Im trying to focus on the here and now .Right at this moment all is ok,  Its so hard to focus on the moment when your very core is fearful of the future. I plan to try to focus on one day at a time and try to appriciate that, tommorow is another day. Maybe its about adjusting the future to one day at a time instead of months or years. 

Words cant be enough to say how sad I am for you and your family. Its  just horrendous and trust me I know. Sometimes its like watching the slow decline of a loved one, I am too and its absolutley hearbreaking. I have had to adjust my reality of the future and instead of visioning years ahead I now focus on one day at a time and try in small ways to make  them meaningful.Thankyou for sharing  because in some  much bigger way we are not alone.

Thank you for your thoughtful advice. Sending love, prayers and positive thinking to you and your family.

Im sending you huge love too. i know how incredibly hard this must be for you. My own adult children are feeling  huge stress over their father too. Its such an enormous emotional roller coaster and sadley we are all on the same ride. My thoughts fo out to all your family because I know how painful this journey feels.

It’s a difficult time for all of us. We are keeping positive and helping our mum to come to terms with her diagnosis. She is a fighter and hoping she will get over the next obstacle to have a few more years and good quality of life. So far she is undergoing chemotherapy. 

I am keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for your kind words.

Your  mum has the one thing that is more precious than anything , a  loving family that support and love her. As a family you all our amazing. 

My husband has just been diagnosed last week and told it is inoperable. He is waiting for a biopsy then chemo too. I just can’t imagine how this is going to be…how awful will he feel? How quickly? How much time do we have left?

As you say our world has turned upside down and at the moment are just trying to organise practical things-putting bills in my name etc.

We are trying to be positive in the face of adversity whilst being realistic and scared! 

I am sorry to hear about your husband. Emotion gets mixed up. You are doing good focusing on the practical aspects of life. It has to be done.

Thinking of you all.

wishing your husband a good outcome of his biopsy and a smooth chemotherapy. 

sending prayers and positivity