My mum got diagnosed with PC just before Christmas. She has Jaundice and up until now all treatment she had has been for the Jaundice and scans and more scans for the cancer.
We had the oncologist appointment yesterday, and they said that on a PET scan that had taken place earlier in the week the cancer had spread to a lymph node and there was spots on the liver which could mean the cancer has spread to the liver but we won't know until she has an MRI scan which could be another two weeks or so. I just feel like because of the size of my mums tumour and seems she had this for a while its more than likely spread as much as i am trying to keep positive.
They cannot operate on the tumour because of its size and how close it is to vessels so they have offered Chemo to to try and shrink it and just prolong life I am guessing as they won't really say much until they have the MRI scan back for the liver, but have said that fi its spread to the liver it will be stage 4 and options will be limited.
My mum is 76 and has a bit of dementia too, so she's not really showing her feelings and its difficult to judge what she is thinking as she won't really talk about any of it.
My dad is her primary carer and he is finding it difficult too not so much with the caring aspect but with my mums dementia and just not knowing how she is feeling or what she is thinking.
I just feel like I don't know what to say or do, I know my mum is fed up as she keeps saying she's had enough of hospital appointments, and she doesn't want to have chemo. She has signed the consent form, but because we don't talk about anything I have no idea how she is feeling. I don't want to upset her by saying the wrong thing. I always try and stay strong in front of my mum but its so painful, i think about her all day everyday.
