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Morning Kasallen, sorry to hear about your news, but you have come to the right site for help. I am on chemo like almost everybody on this forum and we would not be here if we were not on some form of chemo. I had my first cancer 16 years ago, and my second incurable diagnosis March of this year. Try not to look at chemo as a bad thing,try to see it as a positive. Every sort of medication has its side effects and chemo is no different. Not all chemo makes you really poorly, i am on a tablet form and feel perfectly well. I can understand your reluctantly especially with having to care for your husband. Again not all chemo makes you unwell, just give it a try and see how it goes, you don,t have nothing to loose and probably plenty to gain. And please don,t rely on Google for any information on either your cancer or treatments, they are outdated and in a lot of cases wrong or misleading.I wish you all the very best Keep safe 

Hi Kasallen,I am sorry to read that you are in this situation. Chemo effects people differently,so not everyone gets the same effects. Five years ago I was diagnosed with endometrial with a high grade serous type in one fallopian tube. Like you I had a hysterectomy and was advised to have chemo to mop up anything left behind. I had carboplatin and paclitaxol. During this treatment I had a 2-3 days where I felt tired and lethargic,but the rest of the time I was ok ate well and walked everyday. I forgot to say that I was 70  when I was first diagnosed. I have had nearly five years without further treatment for which I felt extremely grateful for. The fallopian tube cancer has come back and I have just completed 6  rounds of chemo which finished on 16 October and I really feel quite well. 

I wish you luck in whatever your decision and if you do have chemo I hope it goes well for you.

Georgette x

Hi Kasallen,

I was diagnosed with a clear cell ovarian cancer stage 3b in 2018 - today I am in Remission.  You can read my story by clicking on my name.  I have been through 2 lots of chemotherapies, and like Wino and Georgette explain, as we are all individuals we don't all experience the same side effects.  Also, I often read the word "doable" in many posts about chemotherapy and this is also my experience.

I absolutely fully understand the fears and anxieties you have around your diagnosis and your treatment as I certainly have felt this way when I started out on my path but talking to my Consultant, the nurses and getting a plan in place and asking questions and getting the information from my medical team really did help to diffuse some of the fears and anxieties I had.  This helped me to prepare and focus my mind for the path ahead.  

We are human beings with lives and life situations and then cancer comes along and demands attention - another layer on top, and being a carer for your husband is understandably giving you cause for concern, It may well be worth calling the Macmillan support line for guidance, if you feel you need it, on what avenues you could access for support for your situation.

I cannot emphasise enough from my own experience that I truly would not be here today if I had not faced and met the challenges on my own path and followed the advice of my medical team.  I am truly humbled and grateful that they could help me and are still there for me today.

There is always help Kasallen, you do not have to go through this alone.  Please keep in touch.

I wish you all the very best and am sending you a very big supportive ((Hug)) xxx