Daughter Ovarian cancer serous low grade 3C

Hello Archieboo - I am so very sorry for what you and your daughter are going through at the moment.   It is such a dreadful time for everyone and I cannot imagine what you are going through as a mum.  I am recently diagnosed (Feb 2023),.  I have had surgery and 6 lots of chemo - so hoping all will be well.    The time when you're newly diagnosed can be terrifying as you literally do not know what your journey will be and living with the uncertainty can be unbearable (it was for me).  The main thing to focus on is that the treatments now are vast and there are many options going forward.  Your daughter will be on a clear pathway with multi disciplinary teams looking at her scans and any biopsies and discussing the best way forward for her treatment.  Make sure you and your daughter have all your questions at the ready and perhaps go with her to her appointments so you can clarify anything or ask any further questions.  Its easy to forget everything the consultant says when you walk out of the door just down to pure stress.

Mentally, I found that as the months wore on and as I progressed through my treatment plan, I started to accept my situation more and more.  I gradually felt able to talk about it in general with other people.   I do still have some dark days but overall - I feel in a better place and it was just down to time that helped me.   That said, my daughter is still struggling with coping with my diagnosis.  The helplessness you must be feeling though as a mum - I cannot imagine.   I am so sorry you're going through this.    Keep the conversation open with your daughter and be prepared for some powerful emotions - from both sides.   I recall having a huge row with my daughter a few months back.  I could cry now even just thinking about how much I snapped at her - and she snapped right back.   We have talked about it since but it just goes to show that feelings for you and your daughter may be all over the place.   Keep talking, keep telling her how much  you love her and that you're there for her.  Make sure you have support for you - somewhere for you to take your painful feelings that you perhaps do not want to express in front of your daughter.   

When I was first diagnosed, I recall the nurse using the word journey and I recall thinking - but I don't want to be on this journey!   But really the word makes sense.   It is a journey and as you both walk down this path - you will meet so many people along the way, professionals and people you've not encountered before - all will bring something positive into your lives.  Whether it is treating/healing or whether it is emotional support/kindness and compassion.   

Sorry I have gone on for ages - I just really do feel for you and your daughter.  Hugs xx

Hi Pickles1959. Thank you so much for replying. I am so sorry that you are going through this and to hear it from your perspective. Really feel for you and your daughter. I think you may be right in saying as time goes by you come to terms with it. Me and my daughter are joined at the hip , so close, wish  that I could swap places with her. But then she would be so worried about me and then I would be so worried about her. Like you said emotions run high especially in the worst times and then you get some relief when better days come around. I can’t let be daughter see me upset but feel I have no one to turn to some times who can feel what I’m feeling. So thanks for this and me joining this group I’m sure will help me to hear other peoples journeys.  All we can do is hope for the best and I really do hope all goes well for you. If I can help you in anyway please ask . Sending big hugs to you and your daughter x 

Oh Archieboo, Just being there for your daughter and sharing her journey will mean an awful lot to her.  I feel so very sad for you having to go through this.  Your daughter is so young but with your help and support she’ll get through this.  Please do try to stay strong

Thankyou Annie 21. . I will always be there for her and be as strong as I can and thankyou for your kind words. 

People can get through it. In 15 minutes I'm going with my mum to have her 6th chemo. She had stage 3c ovarian cancer. Had full hystectomy and her omentum removed. But during last operation they told her the chemo had worked and the cancer had melted away. She is going today to ring the bell and we will enjoy her being cancer free for now.

Your daughter is young. She can fight this. Be strong for her. 

Hi Lovemymum- thankyou for your reply . I’m so pleased your mum is cancer free . Knowing that other people are getting through this helps. Wishing you and your mum all the best

Yes when my mum was diagnosed all I wanted was to find success stories. They are hard to find but I don't think it's because there are none. I think once people recover they just enjoy life and don't think to update. That's why I wanted to update on my mums success.

Wishing the best to your family you can bear this awful disease. 

Hi Lovemymum, Thank you so much for sharing your good news.  So very very pleased your mum is cancer free. I wish her a long and healthy life