My Mum (in her 60’s) survived stage 3 ovarian cancer and is 2 yrs on now thankfully fit and well. I am often juggling emotions and guilt over living my own life with my own family and full time job (which I enjoy) with spending time with Mum who at times seems lonely and down despite being well and married and having friends. I currently see her on average every couple of weeks and more in the school holidays. We live a hour away from her.
Should I be spending more time with her? Will her cancer return? Should I change my job to spend more time with her? If I do more with her will she then expect more and be dependent on me?
Bless you I'm sure your mum is happy you have a lovely family and a job you enjoy. As a mom that's what I want and have for my daughter. I live alone almost 67 my daughter rings me several times a day, I'm still going through treatment. If it comes back that's the time to have that discussion with your mom, for the moment enjoy that your mom is well and enjoying life, most mom's want there children to be happy that gives so much pleasure to us. Carry on caring and sharing. You sound lovely.
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