How to stay positive

Hi, Its totally normal to feel this way.  Hopefully the ultrasound will tell them more and then treatment can be decided.  Its fear of the unknown which is the worse.  I was diagnosed last November and have just finished chemo and am doing really well as are many ladies.  Look after yourself and any questions, please ask. Jan. x.

thanks for coming back to me. I guess I’m scared that it’s too late to treat. I’m so glad you’re doing well. Chris

It's perfectly normal to be scared and weepy - part of it is shock and this will wear off a bit & you will get to have more days where you feel a bit more in control. How quickly this happens is very personal but it's worst when you are still waiting for tests and results.

Trying to do things that are remotely normal helps - that's obviously a bit difficult during covid but spending time cooking, cleaning, gardening or similar can be helpful. Being physically tired helps with sleep.

Don't spend time googling what might come next - it doesn't help & is invariably out of date. Groups like this and the one in Ovacome are more helpful.

Good lunch tomorrow. 

Hi Tobycat

I have been reading your posts and just want to reach out and offer you support.  I am sorry you are going through such a difficult time at the moment, it isn't easy dealing with the unknown is it? Having tests and waiting for results can be a difficult process to manage with so many questions, anxieties and fears flying about whilst waiting.  I have been in this position and found breaking things down into manageable pieces and managing what I can rather than what I can't and accepting my limitations amongst it all helped me. You can read my profile by clicking on my name.  It really is a one day at a time job, sometimes 1 hour or even one minute - whatever you feel able to manage.  

Once I got my results and knew what was happening next gave me a plan to work with which then helped me to move through my fears and anxieties to a place where although they were still there I could manage them without freezing with them.  You mention you are having an internal ultrasound on Wednesday - I have had one approximately 2 years ago for the the first time - the procedure did not take too long and I did not find it painful in any way. 

There is always support here whenever you need it.  Do let us know how you get on and please ask any questions you may have. 

In the meantime, take care and sending you a Big Hug.

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