Reaching Out

Morning 

So sorry to read your mum is nearing end stage ovarian   It is so tough emotionally when a loved one reaches this period; you sort of know what coming and can do nothing but care as best you can.

We found that in our case my mum 'lived' with stage 4 cancer for a couple of years but when things started sliding downhill it was more rapid than we were expecting but it was sepsis and organ failure that took her in the end. It was a tough couple of weeks...

This may be the time you would both benefit from joining the Supporting Someone With Incurable Cancer Group (link) ?

Please don't feel the need to be strong - it is ok to let family and friends know this is a cr*p time for you. You need to look after yourself and recognise tears are a way of relieving stress (maybe in the shower?) is far better than bottling all this up.

Hope this is of some help at a tough time, G n' J

Hi there,

It is the same with my mum, she was diagnosed in early 2018 and then had a bit of sepsis but the cancer is now spreading.

I've just joined that group so thank you very much for that!

Thank you so much for your reply!

TG x

Hi there I am new to this site, but I keep updated about treatments,

Anyways sadly my mother passed away from this awful cancer

In 2003 I nursed her at home till the end . Everything you are

Saying I can relate to . My only advice would be to get as much

Support as you can , my support was my husband.

I tried to stay positive around mum we didn't really talk about

Death and dying as we didn't want to upset each other. 

Every day was a battle for her eventually needing a syringe driver to

Control pain and keep her comfortable.  It was so very hard for us

All to see ., but she was comfortable  that's all we could ask

For at this stage. I spent everyday with her talking to her telling her

How much we loved her , I know she could hear me even though she

Was quite sedated. Though we lost her and it was very hard , she passed 

Peacefully , she left a big hole in my life but now 15 years on I have all of my 

Wonderful memories of her ,also knowing I did the best I could for her,

Grab any help you can my lovely , let every emotion out ,  make it known you

Need support too as you are vulnerable  and struggling to keep it together.

I thought I would never get over the death of my mother and two years later my wonderful

Dad , but you do , it's hard to think how you will cope without them but you do . Your world changes but you adapt . Be strong lovely chin up God bless you

Hi there I am new to this site, but I keep updated about treatments,

Anyways sadly my mother passed away from this awful cancer

In 2003 I nursed her at home till the end . Everything you are

Saying I can relate to . My only advice would be to get as much

Support as you can , my support was my husband.

I tried to stay positive around mum we didn't really talk about

Death and dying as we didn't want to upset each other. 

Every day was a battle for her eventually needing a syringe driver to

Control pain and keep her comfortable.  It was so very hard for us

All to see ., but she was comfortable  that's all we could ask

For at this stage. I spent everyday with her talking to her telling her

How much we loved her , I know she could hear me even though she

Was quite sedated. Though we lost her and it was very hard , she passed 

Peacefully , she left a big hole in my life but now 15 years on I have all of my 

Wonderful memories of her ,also knowing I did the best I could for her,

Grab any help you can my lovely , let every emotion out ,  make it known you

Need support too as you are vulnerable  and struggling to keep it together.

I thought I would never get over the death of my mother and two years later my wonderful

Dad , but you do , it's hard to think how you will cope without them but you do . Your world changes but you adapt . Be strong lovely chin up God bless you