Advice on mums diagnosis

Rossyf 11 days ago

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my mum has recently been diagnosed with myeloma and she is really struggling to come to terms with everything. She has turned off and almost going into isolation mode and avoiding reality.
I myself am trying to understand everything from diagnosis to treatment to what the future looks like.
one thing I do know is that without my mum coming to terms with everything the future will be bleak.
I am terrified and really not sure how to approach my mum to explain how scared we all are and how it is paramount she comes to terms with her diagnosis to allow us to move forward

Chicken2 11 days ago

A myeloma diagnosis is a huge shock. How people respond to that shock is a very individual thing.

You say that you are not sure to approach your mum to say that you are all scared. If you are referring to your mum's diagnosis, then I would say that may be the wrong approach. This is time for those around her to be strong, or at least to pretend to be strong.

You say that she is avoiding reality. Could you please give more detail? For example, that could mean that she is saying that she will sail through treatment, is she saying that she does not even need treatment? The first is possible. The second, sadly, not.

More positively, there are many treatments out there, and people can nowadays live many, many years with myeloma.

I am glad that you are reading up. Don't forget that this forum is also a great source of information.

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