Stage 4 MCL - the future petrifies me

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Hi all,

This is Andy, I am 57, live in NW London and was diagnosed with stage 4 mantle cell lymphoma in September '23. I received 6 R-CHOP chemotherapy treatments and my 

From September '23 to March '24 all I knew was hospitals, tests, chemo, injections, consultations - a daily and relentless regime for 6 months. It was the worse 6 months of my life.

My PET scan in March returned a "complete metabolic response" - which meant no signs of lymphoma after the initial 6 treatments.

After the PET scan in March I started a 2-year maintenance plan receiving Rituximab every weeks.

I have good friends that support me, family that support me too, I have neighbours that have been so unbelievably caring too and I have been lucky enough to be able to retire at only 57 and not have to worry about finances too much.

Physically I feel fine. But, I am really, really struggling emotionally. Whilst I am happy that the initial chemotherapy I received has beaten back this rotten disease, the future petrifies me. All I know is fear. So much so that I am struggling to come to terms with fact that I have a life changing (and life threatening) cancer and I am also struggling to live my life to the fullest.

I am aware that MCL can return at any point and more aggressively too and that scares the hell out of me - so much so that I am too scared to "go and live my life". 

Instead of travelling, going to parks, galleries, museums etc - living life to its fullest, I mope about at home and abuse alcohol instead.

Your help and advice please would be welcomed

Andy

  • ThanksTrevor

    I could do with some of your positivity!!

  • Mike - have now signed up for a few on-line group meetings with Lymphoma Action

  • Mike - Just had a reply from LA and apparently I can only sign up for one on-line group? Disappointed with that. Need to look for a better service provider now

  • I see you have joined the LA Closed Support Group…. As for the online groups…… one group per month is sufficient to develop a relationship with the group members.

    With a significant number of people looking for places in the groups this is why there is a limit put on……. as a charity there is a limit as to how these groups are run and funded…… don’t let this put you off in anyway.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

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  • Regrettably and with irritation, it has put me off them. Maggies nor MacMillan act like that

    I have never heard of joining criteria for a cancer support group

  • Hi, I was diagnosed I when I was 41 and am now 50. I'm new to the group but had the same diagnosis, and I have my dark days too, wondering when it will return. Every time my haemotology consultant appointment, I am always convinced it's back, but each time my consultant is very pleased with my blood results.  And the last time he saw me he said people are increasingly staying well in all different cancers. 

    I'm wondering: so you get pain in your joints and muscles after your treatment? as I do, and it keeps getting more painful. 

    I've recently moved flats with my husband and it's a much more quieter place with lots of nice walks, living between two woods, but still in walking distance to town. I find my peace in walking around the woods or somewhere quiet and take in the sights and sounds of nature 

    But there are the days too, where I get very depressed and anxious. 

    Hope this helps in any way. 

  • Hiya,

    Many thanks for your message.

    I must be one of the fortunate ones because I had very few side affects following my 6 R-CHOP treatments (apart from total hair loss). And, I've now had 3 Ritixumab treatments and no side affects at all. 

    I am really struggling with the knowledge that my mantle cell lymphoma could return and that is stopping me living my life. It's like I am not permitting myself to be happy by living life to the fullest incase that happiness is shattered with a relapse. 

  • Hi I know you posted a month ago but after reading your post it touched a cord with me . I have had chemo for a rare lymphoma and not sure when it will return and like you am struggling to live a normal life . Hopefully we will be more able to adjust to this new normal. I wish you well x Chris 

  • Hi Chris,

    It's learning how to adjust to all to all the adjustments that's proving challenging. Plus, being frightened all the time that my cancer will return - which, with mantle cell lymphoma, often does. It's only in the past 3-4 months that I have began to feel like me again. So much so that I am now doing voluntary work and I am trying to get more physically and mentally active which is so important too. I wish you all the versy best Chris