Needed to tell someone what’s happening to my wife and just share the experience…
My wife was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer may 2022 …. It’s also in her lymph nodes , spine , bone marrow , hip and lots of lumps …so straight away into palliative care ….at the time it was the end of the world but she is a very brave woman and just got on with things ( I was in pieces ) I stopped work to be at home with her and do whatever needed doing .
She has had 1 round of radiotherapy on her spine ( they thought she was going to be paralysed) and 7 lots of chemotherapy and immunotherapy that seems to have squashed the cancer for now but the side effects have been pretty serious. She has liver , thyroid and pancreas issues and suffered kidney failure…..(nearly started dialysis but her kidneys have started to get a bit better now ) the latest is that her stomach is constantly upset so we are now seeing a gastroenterologist…. It’s seems to be never ending but I’m just happy that even though she’s terminally ill she still has a really good quality of life and is in no pain , so I consider us lucky , which has got to be the strangest but truest statement ever …… we both know that she can never be treated for her cancer again as her kidneys won’t be able to take it so we are just almost pretending that nothing is wrong and just trying to carry on with our normal lives as much as possible even though our world could come crashing down at anytime …..the only thing that I’m struggling with is the fact that she can be a little bit moody / angry with me and really forgetful ( normal married life maybe 
) … ..but if that’s all I’ve got to put up with long may it continue and as long as she’s around to tell me off I’m quite happy …..
Anyway my point is I think that when you first get the diagnosis your world ends and you can’t help but have these awful feelings but eventually you realise that everyone is different and how they react to each treatment is also different ….so you just have to except it and just try to keep moving forward and try and deal with whatever this awful sickness throws at you … my wife’s favourite saying is that she’s not dying of cancer but living with cancer …
stay strong everybody and keep fighting the fight …..
Thankyou so much 
️ it’s been a strange year, still feel like we are living in a nightmare sometimes! Somedays are so hard but we have to carry on don’t we! My mom is fit and well despite only having 1 lung now, we make the most of everyday, you have to don’t you! Your message has made me smile, thankyou again x
