Hi, newbie here

Hi PTSD,

im so very sorry to hear your news.  It’s difficult being the person with cancer.  I know you must feel so helpless.  I suffer from PTSD… I was a military wife for a lot of years and understand how that can impact you.

If you think I can help be a sounding board please add me as your friend.  I will check in daily and try to be a support to you.  I have early stage lung cancer so I may be able to help support on both sides.  I lost both parents to cancer.  My Mum was only 57 when she died.

I have good support but I know PTSD has it’s own demons that like to play.

sending hugs to you and your wife.

Korina

Thank you. It's all still sinking in at present, but like you I have lost both parents to cancer in the past.

• It is an awful lot to process.  Just please know you are not alone.  There are many of us here to listen and try to understand.  We are all on this ride alone but together

Our biggest concern is how it will all affect our beautiful wonderful 9 year old child. We have always been very open and honest with her about everything in life, and do not wish to change that even under such dire circumstances.

That is the hard part.  I’m a believer in being honest with your kids.  I had to do this from two different views.  Telling my kids my mum was dying.  Telling my daughter her brother had been killed.

Maybe, touching base with the support staff can offer you some advice on the best way to handle this?  Kids are incredible and we often under estimate them.

Take lots of photos, have your wife get a notebook and write her letters for each day.  Letters for each future milestone.  That is something she can take control of in a time that is so very scary.

sending love and light to all of you!  Hopefully some of the chats you have on here help a tiny bit xxx