My daddy

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My dad has recently been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer with brain metastases. He is having immunotherapy but recently has been losing balance and being sick but with bile not normal vomit. Dad knows he very poorly but will not ask life expectancy which is driving me insane because there's so much we wanna do and dunno how much time we have to do it. I feel so so alone and just don't know where to turn. 

  • Hi there, how difficult for all of you to know where to go with this. My Dad knew he didn’t have long, having decided he would not have treatment. He made the most of his time by being with his family, burying hatchets and eating what he fancied.  I’m now waiting for some treatment and I have no idea how much time is left for me. I’m living my life, enjoying my family and taking every day as it comes.

    Maybe your Dad doesn’t want to know. It’s challenging being on both sides of the cancer experience but giving your love and support maybe is just what is good for both of you right now. You didn’t say what it is you’d like to do. Maybe just talk to each other and make some plans that are moveable or do things on the spur of the moment.

    For me, just being with my Dad, holding his hand, talking and getting to know him as a person, for the first time bought us closer together than we’d ever been before. Perhaps calling one of the MacMillan nurses here would be helpful and help you manage this challenging time. Sending you a big hug xx