Newbie here with lung cancer

Hello Nora, 

My dads story has some similarities to yours and I often wonder how he is dealing with this emotionally. He is now having his 4th and final round of chemo before he starts radio and has had some sideffects along the way. I want him to talk to me or my mum but I think he is just staying strong for us. Why do you feel like you can't talk to your family? It would be great to understand things from he others perspective 

XxxxxX

Hi NonaJ welcome to the group, but sorry you find yourself here. It is great to hear you are recovering well from the lobectomy.  I think we try so hard to show all of our loved ones that we are ok, because we want to protect them from anymore worry. But you have been through a terrible ordeal. Being told you have cancer is traumatic, and any type of surgery is hard. I am sure lots of people here will tell you that they cry themselves to sleep, and try not to show their emotions in front of family and friends. That's why this forum is so important, as you can come here and say exactly how you are feeling, and there will always be someone here who knows how that feels.

Good luck with the follow up appointment. Let us know how you get on x 

Hi Tye Tye

I'm sorry about your dad and really hope he is doing ok. I don't talk to my family about how scared i am and how i really feel because i don't want to worry them anymore than they are already worried.  I guess I'm trying to protect them which I'm sure is what your dad is doing for you. I also find it hard when people look at me with really sad faces as if I'm going to die. I've cried to various nurses over the past week and been honest with them but i don't have an emotional attachment to them so feel it's safe. Even if my family asked me to be honest i don't think I would.  I'm not sure if this helps at all but i do send you my love xx

Thank you Chelle and i will let you know when I hear the results about whether I need further treatment xxxxx

U can contact me anytime if u  want to have a conversation . 

Hi Chelle. My consultant called me Thursday and the tumour has been completely removed because of the lobectomy and he also removed a lymph node which showed up on the PET scan. That node did contain cancer but he said it hadn't spread outside the node. As a pure precaution he is recommending chemo and or immunotherapy to give me the best possible chance of it not returning. I am gutted that I need further treatment but also grateful that I'm being given every chance. Having recovered so well from the lobectomy which wasn't even 3 weeks ago. I feel I've hit rock bottom again. My emotions are all over the place but I guess it's fear of the unknown. I don't know anything about chemo and immunotherapy and should hear from the oncologist next week. I had a third covid jab today and flu jab as they said my immune system will be hammered. I just need to pull myself together again and deal with it. Just wish i didn't keep crying at the drop of a hat.  Will let you know when I know more and thank you for being someone i can be honest with about how i feel xx