Hello, newbie here. Has anyone else found people have, to me, a strange attitude towards you once you tell them you have had cancer/surgery/are clear/recovering etc?
Also, would like to hear from anyone who is in recovery as I really thought I would bounce back a bit better! although everyone tells me it can take months, I feel very limited and am worried about when I may be able to go back to work and tbh how my life will be from now on?
thank you
Hi Realshannon, welcome to the group, but sorry you find yourself here.
Although cancer is spoken about much more now than it was years ago, some people still feel uncomfortable around it. I have lost many friends over the years since my diagnoses, but then I think were they really friends or they would still be around. Although I like to alleviate peoples fears around cancer, and show them that, like me, they can live with this disease, peoples reactions does sometimes make me feel that I cannot tell people about my condition. I have recently had a situation with a neighbour, who told me that she thought I was lying about having cancer, because I just don't look sick enough. No one knows how we cope behind closed doors, or how their word effect us.
I hope you improve in your recovery. I know how frustrating it can be when you just feel like you want everything to get back to how it was. The only lung surgery I had, they managed to go in via a tube down my throat into my lung, as the tumour was in the bronchial airway, so recovery was quicker, although they did manage to break my front tooth in the process.
Take care
