Mum has lung cancer.

Hi MaWalton welcome to the group, but sorry you find yourself here. It is so hard when a loved one is diagnosed with cancer.  I lost my mum when I was in my 40's. We did talk about her illness, and although it was very difficult, and we cried a lot, it gave us an opportunity to talk about the good times too, and so I am left with some fond memories of those chats.  Now the shoe is on the other foot, and I am the one with cancer, I make sure that I talk openly and honestly with my own daughters. I know this is not easy for everyone. 

There is another support group that you might want to join. The Friends and family forum is for people who are supporting loved ones with cancer. 

Take care

Thank you for replying , that has just teared me up , im so sorry you are now in that position , sending you my thoughts. 

I cant talk to mum it hurts , its like its real , it just came out of the blue. Shes my whole world. My dad tries to talk to me about her funeral etc and I cant deal with it. I do feel awful as I know I am the only other person apart from my dad she can talk too. Her friends and neighbours don't know , she has sworn us to secrecy so when they ask after her I have to lie. Sometimes I think I want to go before her so I dont have to face what's to come xxx