Coping alone

I am so sorry you are coping with the stress of this alone ,in a strange way i feel i am coping alone ,though i am not ,as i live with my husband ,i had an operation last july to remove part of my lung and an up coming 6 month scan on tuesday ,but he does not seem to understand my fears ,but i have found some friends on here who have helped me through a lot ,so even though i am not alone ,i do understand ,

Bless you, Christie. I'm so sorry that you are struggling. I understand, totally, that we can feel alone even when surrounded by others. I hope this thread might offer some comfort or an outlet for anyone feeling alone. Upcoming scans and tests are so scary. I hope we can all join forces here and lend support to each other. 

Being alone is hard, but being alone when you’re sick can sometimes feel unmanageable. I’m  not sure if you have a pet but I’m certain you would find comfort and companionship in a dog. You may be alone and physical form, but you are not alone in thought and prayer.  Sending love. 

Thank you 1220 for your lovely message. I have two cats and they give me soooo much love, comfort and solace. I cannot stress enough, the power of the love of animals. Sending love.

Hi, this is my first post but like you I have late stage lung cancer and part of the reason for coming here was because I am so desperately lonely.  My treatment was between Apr-Sept and I have no friends or family.  I do know some people but they are old colleagues and we don’t have that kind of relationship.  I can’t get my house clean, the weight loss means I am weak.  I am very very depressed and I cannot quiet my mind.  The brain radiotherapy has left me forgetful and confused.  I’ve been to the GP and put on a min 6 month waiting list for some mental health support, tried calling cleaners but the house is too messy so they won’t do it. Thank you for posting x 

Hi Mantaray25. I'm so, so sorry to hear that you are feeling so low. Would a call to the Macmillan helpline be useful for some of the more practical things? Maybe they could suggest some organisations in your area that could help with cleaning etc.? Are there any patient support groups run by your hospital? I've found some calming meditations on YouTube that are specific to cancer. Trying something like that might bring a little comfort. If those who are feeling alone keep posting on here, hopefully we will, collectively, bring some solace to our situations. Sending love.

I am very sorry you were going through this. Are there any support groups in your area? Have you tried the website “meet up” in order to get out?  For your cleaning… Just start small and go little by little. Today clean a 4x4 area. And tomorrow you clean another small space and the next day another… Little by little you will have cleaned the whole house and you will feel so much better when you tackle it. Sending you well wishes and lots of brooms :) 

Hi Christie.K,

Sending good wishes and positive thoughts ahead of your scan tomorrow. Kizzy.

Thankyou Kizzy ,just trying to keep the stress levels down at the moment x

I know - it's so tough. I am seeing my consultant tomorrow, so am stressing, too.

Thinking of you x